@cm0308 I am in the same boat…. It does get better…. My boys are all grown and married…. But my 2 autistic daughters 10 and 15 are still home with me…. Their father has seen them maybe a total of 4 days in 8 years, 1 $10 gift card the first year we split and I had to force that…. Then $10 out of his pocket when I had to go to the town he moved to for my daughters medical, and I called him to let him know so he didn’t show up for the doc visit just McDonalds for 3 hours…. Then last year he was around 3 days when he thought he had a chance of getting back with me…. Once he realized there was no chance he went and moved in with some woman he met at the bar that same night….and has forgotten about my daughters once again….
I messaged him letting him know I was planning on moving out of state, he told me I would go to jail if I left state…. Little does he know I am going through the courts…. And I will leave if I want too he was supposed to have 1 weekend a month for the last 8 years and for 7 of those years he only lived 3 hours away and I was to meet him halfway….the last year he has been in the same town and still does not have any contact, but he thinks he can control us…. I know how hard it gets being a single mom, no breaks, no time to find someone to spend your life with unless your children are there and I refuse for my girls to meet anyone for at least 6 months…. And like someone said it must be nice to be able to abandon your children no cares on bills, making sure they are fed, bathed, and in bed…. It makes it very hard…. Best thing to do is join a single parents group, or get play dates going where you can alternate babysitting and help each other…. I wanted to do this but now with both my girls being special needs it has become very hard….
You have it lady…. Do not let it get to you!!! Hold your head high because you are raising the future without the help of a jerk…. So they won’t have his downfalls… learn his bad habits….