I’m just f%cking tired

[retroprophet]

@veronm144 It’s crazy the amount of self centered idiots that somehow score overly competent women as wives. It’s almost baffling how this is such a shock to them all of a sudden after having children.

 

[soothsayer]

@veronm144 My husband: what’s wrong with him, how do you do this, when does he need to start doing that, why is he doing that

Also my husband when I tell him that I read online that it’s normal or that we should try to do things this way and it’s not the answer he wanted cause it likely requires some level or work or discredits what he thought: you can’t believe everything you Google or just because lots of people on the internet are saying that doesn’t mean it’s true

 

[veronm144]

@soothsayer Sounds like our husband is leading a secret life and has two families

 

[nomarga]

@pencil_on_paper Saving this post so I can feel solidarity in rage.

 

[mssngpeces]

@pencil_on_paper this just reminded me of the sad reality

do people just not use their brains?

 

[kikory]

@pencil_on_paper PREEEEEACH

 

[foxhound21136]

@pencil_on_paper Have you checked out the working moms subreddit?

 

[pencil_on_paper]

@foxhound21136 Just joined!

 

[opel56]

@pencil_on_paper I feel this in my bones. Especially the part of the nephew. Except in my case it was my boss's drinking buddy with 0 experience.

 

[meelinglf]

@pencil_on_paper The more I read about the US the more horrified I am by the men there. Dear god.

 

[j2ds]

@pencil_on_paper Yup. Sounds about right.

Can I add that when you go to tell someone about how hard it is, they make meaningless suggestions or make it seem like it’s your fault things are so hard? One example, I was complaining that I’m the only one that works, does all overnight feeds, all meals, etc..
Them: “why don’t you just tell your husband to get up at night”
Me: “baby is breastfed”
Them: “but you have frozen milk!”
Me: {sigh….}

 

[pencil_on_paper]

@j2ds This right here.

 

[energy_solutions]

@j2ds Yup

 

[lianne72]

@j2ds I don't understand, why can't your husband feed the expressed milk, am I missing something here?

 

[j2ds]

@lianne72 Yes. Breastfeeding requires removal of milk to keep up with supply, not develop engorgement or other mastitis symptoms. Also my frozen breastmilk has high lipase taste, so it needs to be mixed with fresh for it to be drinkable. There are other reasons why late nights it’s not ideal, such as the time it tastes to warm the milk, baby is screaming and what.. I’m just laying there listening to his distress? The point of OPs post and my response is that the onus always seems to be on us for every hardship

 

[stephen1980]

@pencil_on_paper Wow. I feel all of this but that last paragraph just really hit home. Well said.

 

[jelizgasha]

@pencil_on_paper Amen.

 

[grace2thehumble]

@pencil_on_paper Girl I feel you so much.

 

[annitabeya]

@pencil_on_paper I feel you on literally ALL of this.

 

[katrina2017]

@pencil_on_paper You’re a badass. You’re tough as nails. But I’m sorry you’re hurting, and I’m sorry you’re so fuxking exhausted. I wish I had something inspirational and uplifting to say…but I don’t, because I’m right here with you. If/ when you figure it out, please share with me. Until then, keep on fighting that good fight. The days are so goddamn long, but the months and years are short. It’s insanity.
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