@josh437781 Thanks for the reply. I understand why you’d think that way considering the small picture I’ve given. But at my house and office there are rules. He is responsible for making his bed, grooming himself, cleaning up after himself, making his lunch, throwing the trash out, washing dishes, and other chores as needed.
He’s expected and reminded to act like a gentleman at all times. He has time limits and restrictions on his phone and Xbox. He’s in sports year round. He gets straight As in school. I don’t go back on my word and I follow through with both rewards and consequences. He’s in Sunday school, family therapy, I’m in individual therapy and I constantly show and teach him about virtuosity because I actually really care about his character development!
His dad’s family gives him absolutely no responsibilities and my mother doesn’t help when she’s around either. He’s treated like a damn prince and spoiled rotten by my mother and his paternal family. And nobody cares or listens to me. They have this victim mentality towards him. And to make matters worse, his father is a terrible male role model, which would take a whole other post to explain.
This is the first time he’s cursed at me and he hasn’t apologized or spoken to me since. This is the third major tantrum since Monday. “Extremely permissive” is something that I’m not. I’d say I’m closer to authoritarian style, and definitely trying to stay away from permissive and authoritative.
I have a lot of learning to do. There’s always room for improvement. Over the last year I’ve focused on keeping it cool when he pushes my buttons instead of yelling, etc. That’s been tough, but I’ve been doing much better, especially recently. From the ground up is where I’ve started and I hope he changes his mentality soon. Thanks again.