Stop f*cking telling me I’ll change my mind

[jcarp]

@i_love_you_lots That's a “transfer myself as a client to a collegue” fighting words kinda situation

 

[moriarty777]

@i_love_you_lots I'm aggressively stubborn, most people believe me when I say I'm one and done.

I like people and am perfectly friendly, but my face is honest to the point of being a hindrance, at times.

I miss sleep waaaay to much to do this again. I hate feeling like my brain isn't working. There's a few reasons I'm teetotal, and avoiding this brain fog is one of them.

 

[i_love_you_lots]

@moriarty777 Agree. I was always an insomniac but pregnancy alone has messed me up so much that I’m literally begging the universe to make the stars align so I can sleep more than 2 hours

 

[moriarty777]

@i_love_you_lots I feel for you so much, I was there as well when my son was four months old.

Even if he was sleeping I couldn’t because I get insomnia based around anxiety about finally being able to sleep.

I’m generally an anxious person and motherhood hasn’t exactly helped.

 

[xxdanklutheranxx]

@i_love_you_lots I got this too. By the time my son was about 10, they stopped hassling me about having another one. I guess they got the "hint" that it wasn't going to happen by then. Kiddo is 18 now.

 

[joeyvimsantethepoet]

@i_love_you_lots "You will change your mind" is a punch-worthy sentence. I can't take it as anything but an insult to my capability of judgement. If I'm too dumb for this then on what else will you override my own decisions on?

 

[i_love_you_lots]

@joeyvimsantethepoet Yup. I’m already sensitive to being made to feel stupid, and that’s just the icing on the cake.

What authority does anyone have to tell me my decision is wrong or that I’ll change it? Just...why

 

[willieosgood]

@i_love_you_lots People have been telling me I'll change my mind for almost 5 years. Nope. Not gonna haaaappen! I love my daughter but my pregnancy was very rough. I could never willingly do it again. I have terrible migraines and I only survived being pregnant with them because I could lay down. If I were pregnant now, I would have to care for a 4 year old.

Family members still try to convince me, saying they would help me. How irresponsible would that be for me to have a kid, with the assumption others would care for him/her?

When people run out of reasons, they switch to, "Well you never know, you could have an oopsie". Lol wtf. No, that's what birth control is for. People are insane.

 

[gielleam]

@i_love_you_lots Yeah I sympathize, people need to learn to cut that out. It's super annoying and out of line to keep pushing people on their one and done status. I'm one and done by choice, and whenever anyone has asked when I'll have more or says I'll change my mind I'll say "Nope one and done. Husband and I are happy with our daughter and aren't having more." Doesn't always deter people but they usually stop after that, but maybe it's due to the look on my face lol.

 

[i_love_you_lots]

@gielleam If I could have pushed my face through the phone I think he would have got the point

 

[gielleam]

@i_love_you_lots I think seeing someone's face pop through a phone would be terrifying and REALLY make your point!

 

[yennora]

@i_love_you_lots You rant a lot. Are you not able to speak with someone in real life? So much bitching in your posts. You must he kinda miserable.

 

[katrina2017]

@i_love_you_lots I just laugh. My husband had a vasectomy. I say “ok you can pay for the reversal and raise the kid”. They change their attitude real quick lol. People often project their own feelings onto others. Don’t sweat it.