@raving4him The r/TTCafterloss sub has helped me work through my miscarriage. I am so sorry you are going through this. It’s a horrible thing to experience. I didn’t really want to tell people I had a miscarriage, but that was mostly because I wanted to control the conversations about it. If I wanted to talk about it, I would talk about it... and that does not give a person the right to ask me about it. We announced way too early because my mom basically said if you don’t tell people you’re pregnant, I will. So that means we had to tell people I miscarried, which was so hard for me to do, so I had my husband tell people not to text condolences or contact me about it. My husband had to repeatedly tell his mom and sisters to not contact me about it, and one sister still tries to bring up my ‘fertility issues’ almost every time I see her. It’s not that it’s too painful to talk about, it’s more that his sisters are baby factories (one is currently pregnant with #3 and the other is pregnant with twins, making 5 for them... oh and they’re like 4 days apart), so I just don’t care to talk babies with them right now.
Even though this is how I feel, I think you certainly have the right to talk to whom ever you want about it, If it would help. A miscarriage is something no one could comprehend unless they have been through it themselves. People tend to be less sensitive about pregnancies and announcements when they haven’t experienced one, but at the same time, I didn’t want people walking on egg shells around me about it. Things will get better, I promise. I really recommend that sub because it is healing to know your feelings are shared with others.