eileen7316
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My wife was pregnant with our second child. We had seen a beating heart at 8 weeks, so we were rather confident already.
She was at 9+6 on Tuesday when she began spotting a little bit. She had never done that with our first so obviously, she got a little scared. She slept on it and in the morning, it was better, but then, it started bleeding a little more.
We went to the hospital, she got a gyn exam and we got an ultrasound where we even saw a beating heart. Doctor was reassured a little bit even with low HCG levels and told us to monitor evolution of bleeding. She slept again and even with the bleeding and clots, it was still looking good as it seemed under control and there was no pain. Then it went sideways.
This afternoon, she lost a big clot and started bleeding more. She also began cramping. We went to the ER and the bleeding got worse and worse. At that point she already felt like she had lost the baby, but nobody would confirm it. She just got out of surgery and it’s over now.
I know these things usually happen because the fetus was not going to be viable, but man it hurts. I’ve never felt this way in my entire life. Nearing 10 weeks, I thought we had turned a corner and were heading to safer times, and then we got blindsided like this.
Going to stay in this sub, because I like reading all the stories, good or bad, but it’s hard knowing that my wait is now going to be longer before I have another child. Cherish all the moments and the dreams because life is so fragile. Especially at these stages.
EDIT: it’s so weird how I didn’t relate to that kid as much as our first one, maybe because their was no gender or name yet… but now that it’s gone, I do feel like I lost a child and all the stories that I was going to have with my family of four that included THIS child. There are no words.
She was at 9+6 on Tuesday when she began spotting a little bit. She had never done that with our first so obviously, she got a little scared. She slept on it and in the morning, it was better, but then, it started bleeding a little more.
We went to the hospital, she got a gyn exam and we got an ultrasound where we even saw a beating heart. Doctor was reassured a little bit even with low HCG levels and told us to monitor evolution of bleeding. She slept again and even with the bleeding and clots, it was still looking good as it seemed under control and there was no pain. Then it went sideways.
This afternoon, she lost a big clot and started bleeding more. She also began cramping. We went to the ER and the bleeding got worse and worse. At that point she already felt like she had lost the baby, but nobody would confirm it. She just got out of surgery and it’s over now.
I know these things usually happen because the fetus was not going to be viable, but man it hurts. I’ve never felt this way in my entire life. Nearing 10 weeks, I thought we had turned a corner and were heading to safer times, and then we got blindsided like this.
Going to stay in this sub, because I like reading all the stories, good or bad, but it’s hard knowing that my wait is now going to be longer before I have another child. Cherish all the moments and the dreams because life is so fragile. Especially at these stages.
EDIT: it’s so weird how I didn’t relate to that kid as much as our first one, maybe because their was no gender or name yet… but now that it’s gone, I do feel like I lost a child and all the stories that I was going to have with my family of four that included THIS child. There are no words.
