@opinionsareopinions I used to stress constantly that my kid would never sleep if I didn’t sleep train her. There’s lots of people out there with the opinion that sleep training is like potty training, they won’t sleep if you don’t show them “how”. Idk I just stuck with what I felt like doing (which was cuddling my kiddo to sleep) because there’s no way she’s going to need me to rock her to sleep in high school
Sleep drastically improved for us around like 14 months. She usually wakes up only once a night now at 18 months, usually somewhere between 10-12 so sometimes I’m even still awake to put her back to bed. And after that one wake she stays soundly asleep until about 5:30 (wish it was later, she used to sleep until 6:30 but oh well lol). Obviously she has nights where she is up more but she does occasionally just stay asleep all night so
I do think I’m lucky because I know another mom for example who had a child who woke up a handful of times a night until she was 3. But they will sleep eventually, every kid is different, whether it’s at 6 months or 4 years. You just kinda gotta wait and see, which can feel like torture sometimes when they aren’t sleeping
but personally I was glad I never gave into the stress and sleep trained because I didn’t really need to.
There are lots of “gentle” things you can do to help your kiddo. A good bedtime routine CANNOT be understated. Scent is surprisingly incredibly tied into our psyche (think of all the warm, Christmasy feelings you get when you smell gingerbread!) so one of my favorite things to do is give my toddler a massage with good smelling lotion before putting on her pajamas. Toddlers especially THRIVE with routine so I do the same things in the same order every night, and by the time we lay down to cuddle, she’s already half asleep and just passes right out lol. I have a song I sing her every night and when she hears it she closes her eyes right away. As you move into toddlerhood I would definitely nail down a solid bedtime routine you both enjoy if you haven’t already.