iamthankful
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@iamthankful I have 3.5yo and an 11mo and honestly the 2 kid part ain't that hard. It's the sass and angst and tiny teenager in a 3yo body that is gonna break me
@shatter94 “The angst” - nailed it
@shatter94 How is the 2.5 year age difference? Expecting another and that’s what ours will be. I was hoping for them to be closer to 18 months apart or so, my worry is they won’t really be able to play together much until the little is maybe 3 or so.
theotherstick
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@mrcjd3 Its great. My older one was more independent (and nearly potty trained) when my second was born and is always wanting to help and love on her brother. Now that hes mobile and interesting to her its even better. She will go and sit by his crib and talk to him in the mornings for 30+ minutes giving me soem sweet sweet extra sleep 
she does go through bouts of being annoyed that he's touching her stuff or knocking down her towers but I can tell that in a few months when he's a bit more understanding they will play together even better. Easily by the time he's 18 months they'll be great playmates but they really already are right now at 11mo
she does go through bouts of being annoyed that he's touching her stuff or knocking down her towers but I can tell that in a few months when he's a bit more understanding they will play together even better. Easily by the time he's 18 months they'll be great playmates but they really already are right now at 11mofiguringitout
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kaleighats
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@shatter94 My now-5 year old has been over the top for so long that I'm really trying to figure out whether she needs an intervention. She's clearly not autistic or delayed, she's just. So. Intense.
@dylan4512 Everything I've been told (and seen in my classrooms) is that most kids get better with their tantrums and emotions around 4yo. I'm also a big proponent of getting kids evaluated if you think anything might be a little off. Could be nothing, could be something like ADHD, or it could be that kiddo is gifted/talented and just bored out of her mind.
@shatter94 Yeah, we're expecting ADHD. I have it, I think both my siblings do, my dad and several of his siblings probably do, and there's something on my husband's side. So no surprises and I'm hoping we'll figure out how to handle it more easily than my parents did. I just honestly wasn't prepared for the arguments yet! She's so argumentative, and so sensitive, and she comes by it honestly. But oh my god.
flyingtreemusings
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@shatter94 I feel you. I have a 3.5yo boy and it feels like Im dealing with a teenager when he throws tantrums. And hes very good in speaking that i forget hes not even 4yo. He says to me "Mum!!!!! See, I told you not to do this and that!!!!" , "Mum, dont hug me!!!" And its the never ending whinging i just dropped my laptop on my brand new console table and scratched the table so bad because i was getting nagged at while he was pooping and i was trying to move to the room near the toilet. Honestly. What a day it has been. But I still love my little boy so id rather whinge here lol
@iamthankful Been there, dude. Mine are 2 years apart. It’s hard at first, but it gets better.
@iamthankful Two kids 3.5 years apart. It’s the self-awareness for me with the older one. She knew she wasn’t the baby anymore and we had a rough couple of months there. No longer was gentle parenting enough, she would just do things for attention. And yes, she was going through a tough time due to a huge life change but that still doesn’t mean she can do things that wreak havoc without consequences.
There were times I felt like a terrible mom. I felt like I would be the cause of her therapy bills. It will be hard. But it will get better as your second gets older.
There were times I felt like a terrible mom. I felt like I would be the cause of her therapy bills. It will be hard. But it will get better as your second gets older.
jeminem1802
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@iamthankful I have a two month old with my 3 year old and it's hard but it will be okay we got this
penguinagent
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my daughter is turning 3 in a week and I am also due with my second in a week 
@iamthankful Literally same exact thing. I’m questioning if I should be having another baby because my 3yo is giving me a run for my money.