Do you think she's hungry? (Rant)

[salamdudu]

@pastorfischer I second this. While I was struggling hard emotionally right after I had my child my MIL was super bad with with boundaries or even acknowledging my existence. I made the decision to stop bringing myself and child around her, and what do you know? The PPD symptoms are virtually gone months later! She feels wronged that she doesn't see her grandchild but she made her choice and played "I meant well but I'm going to keep doing what I want even though you asked me to stop" so I feel no real guilt. Kids don't need to see their mothers getting undermined and a happy mother is a good mother, if I takes cutting out people who don't get that for awhile then so be it, imo!

 

[ron4es]

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[marjmorris]

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[elalpilot07]

@mamuka Be very direct. “Alright, hand him to me and I can give him a quick meal!” And hold your arms out expectantly. Works... 75% of the time people need to be directed or else they’re just in perpetual la la land

 

[seascape7]

@mamuka I agree you need to be direct.

Say "He's hungry and tired, I need to feed him" and hold out your arms expectantly.

Or, say "He's hungry and tired, I need to feed him," and just lean in and scoop him out of her arms. You don't need to wait around for someone to hand you back your baby. It's your baby. Just reach over and pick them up.

 

[mikaasher]

@seascape7 Yeah the problem is when you say and do that... And keep your arms extended and your MIL still decides to ignore what's happening...

 

[seascape7]

@mikaasher That's why the second option was just say it and lean in and scoop him out of her arms. You do not need to wait for someone else's okay to take your own baby to be fed.

 

[rose1994]

@mamuka My evil MIL did this. LO was crying so I picked him up and left the room to nurse him. As I was walking away she goes “I was having fun mom!”
Like bitch, first of all, don’t make my baby “talk”. Second, he was not having fun... he was crying. Lol. I just told her “he wasn’t having fun he’s tired” and left the room. Her jaw hit the floor so fast there’s still a dent in one of the tiles in my kitchen.

 

[sobbret]

@lovejoyhope My mom will be holding him and will tell me that he seems to be hungry and I'm like "okay, bring him here" and she just continues to hold him and tell him that he needs "titty" which irritates me.

Now that I combo feed she demands a bottle so she can feed him. I like the helloi, but damn Grandma, calm down.

 

[cfh2k5]

@lovejoyhope My MIL pulled this exactly once, with my second baby. He was a colicky infant, and was crying (of course) while she was holding him. I said that it was time for him to eat, and she was like “oh no, he’s gassy!” She was always talking about gas gas gas but that was the first time she had argued with me about why he was being fussy. I was already running on fumes (colicky baby=no sleep or quiet time), and I just sternly said “NO, he’s hungry”. She’s lucky I didn’t say what I was actually thinking “lady, I think I fucking know when my kid is hungry seeing as you just got here, now stop jiggling my baby trying to coax a burp out of him and PASS HIM THE FUCK OVER”

 

[ad63]

@lovejoyhope My mother in law does this too, along with putting her fingers in his mouth. Gross, please stop.

 

[lovejoyhope]

@ad63 I would lose it. Whenever the in laws visit I go to another room, my blood literally boils when she’s around.

 

[ad63]

@lovejoyhope My baby is 5 weeks old, it's so frustrating. She was also coughing occasionally and claims not to be sick cause she's had the cough for 2 months. Whatever.

 

[elalpilot07]

@ad63 Fucking boomers I swear.