@ebveloz So this is my experience only and I wouldn’t draw any real conclusions based on it alone! Current ages are- child 1 is 9 years, child 2 is 6 years, child 3 is 2 years. My first I couldn’t bring myself to let them cry or fuss. We room shared and most nights they wound up in bed with me and my husband - they are currently a pretty anxious child, has the most trouble falling asleep, staying asleep and are the earliest riser I have. They need frequent reassurance and we still sit with them until they’re nearly asleep/have a specific bedtime routine, if a parent is at work or has a class past bedtime it is very stressful for them. When my second was born I spent more time reading and learning about safe sleep and made more of an effort to make informed choices as far as their sleep went. We room shared, but never bed shared and I did rock them to sleep nightly until they we’re almost 1, then they started preferring to just have a quick rock and song then just to lay down in bed to go to sleep, but I did go to bed at the same time as them (and their sibling who by that time was full on bed sharing with me). Second child is a more relaxed at bedtime, falls asleep fast and stays asleep; they share a room with the oldest child so we technically sit with them for a bit before bed, but they don’t need it in the same way as the oldest. Third child I wanted to try some kind of sleep training. They also room shared with my husband and I, but around 6 months we started trying to put them down drowsy but awake and leaving the room. We would go through our routine, get them in their sleep sack, have a cuddle, tell them we love them place them in their crib and leave. Husband and I would take turns going in to comfort them at 1-10 min intervals (starting at 1 min, 3 min next time, then 5, then 10, they never went longer than that and after about 3 days of consistency they were laid in their crib and fell asleep on their own without any fuss). They are the most easy going about sleep, they ask to go to their bed when they’re tired, they sleep 10-12 hours solidly through the night and still nap 1.5-3 hours in the afternoon, we still room share but they don’t even wake when we come in the room to go to bed. Number 3 is so content to sleep independently, I wish my first could feel that way, I feel so horrible about the stress they feel around sleep. I suspect child number 1 has anxiety and would probably struggle with sleep even if we did things differently, and child number 3 may just be an anomaly. I am done having children, but if I had a fourth I would probably repeat what we did with number 3 in hopes they would also not feel stressed out about bedtime.
