@jpett People with PCOS have babies all the time but many people with PCOS also really struggle to conceive.
Personally I think having an actual medical condition that often makes it difficult to conceive Is a valid concern when you are starting to try to conceive. It doesn’t mean you have infertility, but it means you have a legitimate reason to approach TTC differently.
Your concerns are totally valid. It can be hard for people that have been trying and not being able to conceive for a long time to sympathize with someone in the beginning of their journey who should have more hope~ but it doesn’t mean that your feelings are not warranted or valid.
I also think that people don’t typically always talk about their cycle etc. so someone who is concerned but seems like they have no reason to be might be anxious because they know their cycles are irregular or they don’t have enough information on their cycle to confirm it is regular (which is valid, I thought mine were regular...apparently not and they have become even close together recently). We don’t really have good sex Ed so people are not well informed about the science behind conceiving and what is normal for a cycle....plus women with conditions like PCOS and endometriosis are often told it can affect their fertility but not told to what extent or why or how. Lack of information I think tends to lead to people having more anxiety around TTC...plus doctors saying “you might have issues conceiving” or even worse...telling someone they will have issues is anxiety inducing and not enough information for people to have a healthy level of concern.
Society also places a lot of value on fertility and does not treat women with fertility issues very well. So I think that also amplifies anxiety around infertility for even women that don’t have any reason to be concerned.
Personally, even though I have been trying around a year and a half now...and I never thought I would end up here until I married someone with existing fertility issues and I was still more optimistic than I should have been....I really don’t blame women who have anxiety around fertility. Especially people like you who have absolutely valid concerns, even though PCOS does not mean conceiving is impossible by any definition of the word.