My OBGYN laughed at me when I said I was OAD

[arseniusthesilent]

I had an appt with my OB last week because nothing down there has felt normal since I gave birth 6 months ago. Turns out I have a bunch of scar tissue that should get better with time/pelvic floor therapy/estrogen-heavy BC, so all's good there. BUT - my doctor asked me about multiples at the beginning of the appointment and this is how it went:

Dr. "So are you planning on having more kids?"

Me: "No, I'm done."

Dr. *laughs*

Me: "Why is that funny?"

Dr. "I hear it all the time"

Me: "I'm literally here because my kid shredded my vag. Why would I do that again? Is my pain funny to you?"

~Silence~

It's weird because he's a great doctor but what the F! He could've been more tactful.

 

[lovepr]

@arseniusthesilent I've read somewhere that parents forget the trauma of having a baby, that's why they tend to have more. I wouldn't doubt that your doctor has heard that before, but yeah, he could have been more delicate with his words.

 

[arseniusthesilent]

@lovepr Yep it’s called the halo effect, and I literally wrote my future self a letter in case I ever go on the fence. That’s how strongly I feel about one and done lol

 

[humbledbygrace89]

@arseniusthesilent Ive been told so many times “you’ll forget the pain”. Almost 4.5 years and I still remember crystal clear all of the back labor pain. Nope definitely haven’t forgotten what I imagine a hot iron rod twisting around in my spine would feel like lol

 

[gfbirch]

@humbledbygrace89 Ugh, I had back labor, too. Vomited multiple times before the epidural could be placed. Will not forget. Will not birth more children lol.