@gembeldolar Thank god for therapists indeed!
I guess it depends on if by principle he’s against “having someone else to do your work for you” or if it’s just a money thing. I think a money thing would be easier to negotiate a compromise or trial period, especially if you have a little extra leverage at the moment from you working hard to get a promotion and better your position!
Some guys are just so stubborn though. My guy is the same way about certain things. I used to be EXTREMELY tight with money and he’s convinced me to loosen up a little. He always says that time is money and it’s true! YOUR time and comfort and happiness = money. You get to relax and decompress, you perform better at work. You spend money at the salon every 3 months, you look good feel good have more confidence, you perform better at work. You know you’ll come home to a clean house, your environment is more relaxing, you have better quality time with your spouse and kids, you’re less distracted and bam! You perform better at work. You perform better at work, you get more promotions!! Your family as a whole is more successful. You and your family’s happiness are worth spending your money on! Otherwise what’s the point?
Yet my guy also is going out of town overnight for a funeral and says “why would I pay $100 for a hotel when I could sleep in my truck?”
sometimes there is no convincing him.
I hope you can find a middle ground! I would agree don’t let MIL in on it if you can help it, even the best family/friend relationships can get squirrelly when it comes to “favors”