@cavitehouseandlot I’ve admitted to my therapist I’ve been picky about who I try and match with because of past relationship trauma. So the women I’ve talked to have typically been Age range: 25-35, wants or open to children (or have/does not have kids) and is emotionally intelligent (as best as I can discern).
By involved in my daughter’s life, I have her every weekend due to my job and her being in school where her mom lives. I take her to dance class and make sure I have all of her important school/extracurricular events off so I can be there. Mom and I are supposed to share responsibilities in regards to medical, school, etc but recently I’ve been the one taking her to, scheduling all medical appointments and being her main advocate. Which I’m okay with, because I want to be there to know what’s going on. Mom is content with just being updated now.
Majority of the time, my daughter is with me when I take a vacation and we’ll go to Disney, a roadtrip, etc. Mom often plans her vacations to visit the husband’s family during the school year and doesn’t take her on those trips cause of school, even when school isn’t in session. She has told her parents “she’s not a part of their (husband’s) family, so she doesn’t need to be there.” The only trips she does take her on is when her family will be there.