@rosine Joined this sub for general advice today and this was the first post that came up and I feel it.
My first attempt at dating made me realize that between working multiple jobs and parenting left me with very little time for dating.
Tail end of last year I decided to give it a go and got the same reaction. Meeting people without kids was easy, and I was 'such a good dad' until they realised I wasn't going to shift my priorities to them. One of them even asked if there was ever a chance a new partner would become "my first priority" and the last I heard from them was when I said "yeah, when my kid is 18".
I expected more understanding from single mums. Maybe I was unlucky, but the two I talked to had - and I'm quoting one of them - "no intention of raising another woman's kids". She wanted an attachment-free man to slot into her life.
This was the last convo I had on dating apps. I deleted them all in January.
My intention was to meet people in real life instead, but it turns out that my parenting schedule and work leave me no time to actually meet anyone. If I want a home and food for me and my son, it feels like I've no option but to do it alone, and it's frustrating.
I wish there were more single dad clubs I could go to. I've deleted the rest of my rant.
My first attempt at dating made me realize that between working multiple jobs and parenting left me with very little time for dating.
Tail end of last year I decided to give it a go and got the same reaction. Meeting people without kids was easy, and I was 'such a good dad' until they realised I wasn't going to shift my priorities to them. One of them even asked if there was ever a chance a new partner would become "my first priority" and the last I heard from them was when I said "yeah, when my kid is 18".
I expected more understanding from single mums. Maybe I was unlucky, but the two I talked to had - and I'm quoting one of them - "no intention of raising another woman's kids". She wanted an attachment-free man to slot into her life.
This was the last convo I had on dating apps. I deleted them all in January.
My intention was to meet people in real life instead, but it turns out that my parenting schedule and work leave me no time to actually meet anyone. If I want a home and food for me and my son, it feels like I've no option but to do it alone, and it's frustrating.
I wish there were more single dad clubs I could go to. I've deleted the rest of my rant.