@hman As someone who lost their dad while they were a child, for the love of god don’t do frozen meals. Everyone else is going to think of frozen meals already. I am 25 years old and I still cannot stomach lasagna, and I’m Italian. We threw away so many giant tin trays of lasagna.
And honestly, she’s not going to want to cook either. I lived off of peanut butter sandwiches for a year, sometimes only spoonfuls of peanut butter, because my mom was so out of it and only barely functioned on autopilot after losing her soulmate. She’s gonna need very basics of groceries, help with laundry, cleaning, mowing, childcare help, and some time off so she can process as well. But the biggest thing, people & help offers disappear after a few weeks. Most don’t last long after 3 months. And the after, that’s when help is most needed. Anything you say now, she will not remember. Words don’t amount to much. A message of “let me know if you need anything” is not helpful. A “I am getting groceries, what do you want/need.” Or maybe an instacart order? Hiring a cleaning crew or a lawncare worker would be nice and helpful.
When my dad passed away, there were also people in my community that would take my siblings out for the day. They’d go to an aquarium, fishing, visit the fire station, fun things to make them happy but also give my mom (and me, I turned into what they call the 3rd parent) a break.