@hman In a similar situation. One of the best things people have sent me is snacks. It sounds stupid but things I could throw into my bag and eat on the go are ideal. You forget to eat. Honestly my favorite messages are the ones where someone reminds me to stop and eat rather than tell me how sorry they are or remind me how much my life sucks.
The lawn being mowed, dishes, and laundry were the things I did at first to keep my brain off my life and how much things sucked, but now I appreciate people doing them for me. Mainly the lawn. Walking the dog is one of those things I hate so someone coming over and walking the dog is so helpful to me emotionally. Especially since it’s my husband’s dog. Someone helped me clean out my garage, which was huge to me. Lawn service and my house cleaner keep me somewhat afloat. Those would always be nice.
People stepping up to keep my child’s life as normal as possible are the people who I cannot thank enough. They’re too little to understand but they need somewhat of a new normal. Going to activities, play dates, etc. are the things I prioritize and people making sure they have enough adult attention helps me. They went from two parents who made them their entire life to one who is trying to keep it together. The other parents having my kid over to play weekly have been so helpful. The stupid things like “breakfast with dad” are so important to kids so making sure those things are covered by friends has been helpful. Even just taking my kid out to kick a soccer ball in the yard is helpful.
People offer so much help and it just makes you feel like they pity you. It gets so old. When I finally came up with something for people to do, they didn’t want to do it. I don’t want food. I don’t even want to eat. The only thing food wise is paying for a grocery delivery service so when you need stuff for your family or yourself, you can get it delivered even when you can’t get yourself out of bed. Something like Walmart+ that does delivery (I never shopped at Walmart until my life was flipped upside down).
The lawn being mowed, dishes, and laundry were the things I did at first to keep my brain off my life and how much things sucked, but now I appreciate people doing them for me. Mainly the lawn. Walking the dog is one of those things I hate so someone coming over and walking the dog is so helpful to me emotionally. Especially since it’s my husband’s dog. Someone helped me clean out my garage, which was huge to me. Lawn service and my house cleaner keep me somewhat afloat. Those would always be nice.
People stepping up to keep my child’s life as normal as possible are the people who I cannot thank enough. They’re too little to understand but they need somewhat of a new normal. Going to activities, play dates, etc. are the things I prioritize and people making sure they have enough adult attention helps me. They went from two parents who made them their entire life to one who is trying to keep it together. The other parents having my kid over to play weekly have been so helpful. The stupid things like “breakfast with dad” are so important to kids so making sure those things are covered by friends has been helpful. Even just taking my kid out to kick a soccer ball in the yard is helpful.
People offer so much help and it just makes you feel like they pity you. It gets so old. When I finally came up with something for people to do, they didn’t want to do it. I don’t want food. I don’t even want to eat. The only thing food wise is paying for a grocery delivery service so when you need stuff for your family or yourself, you can get it delivered even when you can’t get yourself out of bed. Something like Walmart+ that does delivery (I never shopped at Walmart until my life was flipped upside down).