What’s the dumbest thing anyone ever said to you as a twin parent?

[nathann]

2 different situations.

1. Setting: Home Depot
2. Elderly gentleman: “which one is older?”
3. Me: “she is by 5 minutes”
4. Elderly gentleman: “you can tell, she’s bigger”

Yes, those 5 minutes

1. Setting: Daughter’s neurology office
2. Neurologist: “you’re a twin? Which one of you is the prettier one?” (Trying to test cognitive function)
3. Me: “she just turned 3, I don’t think she understands what you’re asking.”

Who asks that?!

 

[drewzz]

@nathann Random lady: "are they natural?"

Me: "no, that one is a cyborg"

Random lady: "no, I mean how did you conceive them?"

Me: "um, I think it was doggy style, but possibly missionary"

Random lady: shocked pikachu face.

 

[timothythe2nd]

@drewzz It had to have been more than one position, how else did you conceive TWICE?

 

[nathann]

@drewzz we would get asked if they were natural quite often when they were babies

 

[katlynmarie]

@nathann I’ve never been asked “are they natural?” But during our 2.5 week hospital stay before they were born EVERY single nurse asked if they were IVF, and they were often surprised when we said that they weren’t.

 

[virtualevangelist]

@katlynmarie I didn't understand just how common it was until I joined a local Moms of Multiples group for a short while. So many of the members had become pregnant with their twins (or other types of multiples) through IVF. Meanwhile, I was there as a pregnant/new first-time, single mom in my very early 20s, and had not even intended on becoming pregnant. Let's just say, I didn't often feel like I fit in.

 

[doodlum1]

@drewzz People ask me that all the time. Mine were IVF after years of infertility and miscarriages so I tell the truth and watch people get super uncomfortable.

 

[heathercc7774]

@doodlum1 "Well the doctor says it was a hormonal surge after my miscarriage, but I think it's because we fucked twice in one day."

 

[paulmoore]

@heathercc7774 Can confirm. The double tap got me to start visiting this sub. My twin girls are due... any day now.

 

[grateful4endlesslove]

@doodlum1 Mine arrive in April, I’m looking forward to saying this is just a pair of them, the rest of the family is on ice.

 

[paraskeve]

@grateful4endlesslove Mine are due in April-May (38 weeks may 2nd so I’m assuming they’re coming in April) and I will be adding this to my box of responses. Lol

 

[nihal]

@doodlum1 Someone just asked me the “are they natural” question the other day. We had infertility as well and got pregnant via IUI. I usually tell them I’m a twin (which is true but I’m also the dad so it’s completely irrelevant). Love your response though. But seriously, what the fuck are people thinking asking that question?

 

[frank3]

@doodlum1 Ours are also IVF and I also just tell people the truth if they ask.. I don't really understand why it makes people uncomfortable though (but it does seem to). I don't really think it's a big deal?

 

[doodlum1]

@frank3 Because infertility is sad, and so people are curious but when they are actually faced with it they don't know what to say. I'm estranged from my sister because she was so horribly insensitive throughout the process that I'm not ready to forgive her.

 

[frank3]

@doodlum1 Infertility IS sad... it's so heartbreaking. It was one of the hardest things I have ever been through if I'm honest.. however when I'm sat there with TWINS.. IVF is no longer a sad thing.. it's a super happy wondrous thing that ended my infertility with a bang. In that circumstance.. IVF is awesome and doesn't need to be sad.

Sad-IVF is when people are on their fourth round and don't have any children.

 

[katrina2017]

@drewzz God, how many people ask me if it was IVF. “Nope, i did come in my wife instead of a tube” does the trick.

 

[jimineez]

@drewzz Hahahahaha oh man that's good.

 

[superslug82]

@drewzz I always get asked if they run in the family, which always sounds like an indirect way to ask if there was IVF.