@nathann I’ve never been asked “are they natural?” But during our 2.5 week hospital stay before they were born EVERY single nurse asked if they were IVF, and they were often surprised when we said that they weren’t.
@katlynmarie I didn't understand just how common it was until I joined a local Moms of Multiples group for a short while. So many of the members had become pregnant with their twins (or other types of multiples) through IVF. Meanwhile, I was there as a pregnant/new first-time, single mom in my very early 20s, and had not even intended on becoming pregnant. Let's just say, I didn't often feel like I fit in.
@drewzz People ask me that all the time. Mine were IVF after years of infertility and miscarriages so I tell the truth and watch people get super uncomfortable.
@grateful4endlesslove Mine are due in April-May (38 weeks may 2nd so I’m assuming they’re coming in April) and I will be adding this to my box of responses. Lol
@doodlum1 Someone just asked me the “are they natural” question the other day. We had infertility as well and got pregnant via IUI. I usually tell them I’m a twin (which is true but I’m also the dad so it’s completely irrelevant). Love your response though. But seriously, what the fuck are people thinking asking that question?
@doodlum1 Ours are also IVF and I also just tell people the truth if they ask.. I don't really understand why it makes people uncomfortable though (but it does seem to). I don't really think it's a big deal?
@frank3 Because infertility is sad, and so people are curious but when they are actually faced with it they don't know what to say. I'm estranged from my sister because she was so horribly insensitive throughout the process that I'm not ready to forgive her.
@doodlum1 Infertility IS sad... it's so heartbreaking. It was one of the hardest things I have ever been through if I'm honest.. however when I'm sat there with TWINS.. IVF is no longer a sad thing.. it's a super happy wondrous thing that ended my infertility with a bang. In that circumstance.. IVF is awesome and doesn't need to be sad.
Sad-IVF is when people are on their fourth round and don't have any children.
@drewzz Get asked this all the time. Or “were you doing fertility treatments?” I usually just say, “No, I’m just old. My body was dumping eggs like beads at the end of a Mardi Gras parade.
we would get asked if they were natural quite often when they were babies