Thinking about being OAD because first born is so easy??

[brhjz]

Anyone feel similar?
I always thought I’d want 2-3 kids but now I’m re thinking that.
My daughter is only 7 weeks old but I think we might be done. She already sleeps 6-7 hours straight in her crib a night & wakes up smiling & cooing every day! As long as she’s not hungry she’s content to sit in your lap or on her own in a swing/baby nest. As I type this she’s on hour 3 of a nap alone in her baby nest. Basically I’ve never met an easier baby
I do not think I have enough good karma to get me a second easy baby! I feel like my second would be a hell raiser haha
I now realize how much of raising a kid is completely up to chance/ your child’s temperament. I don’t think I want to roll those dice again!

 

[marth4k1ng]

@brhjz I’m the same way. Why roll the dice again when you already hit the jackpot. Our daughter is about to turn 5 and will still voluntarily take 1.5-2 hr naps in the afternoon if we have time…..

 

[s3r10uschris]

@marth4k1ng Hot damn that is the jackpot!

 

[rachelyeoh]

@marth4k1ng Our daughter is also almost 5 and either naps or takes a 1.5 hour "quiet time" willingly every day. I don't think I would be able to maintain that consistency if we had another kid. I think she is willing to nap because she doesn't know any different or doesn't have a sibling to break the pattern.

 

[cocoloco1]

@marth4k1ng Well that sounds like a dream, mine was done with naps by 2! If she napped for 2 hours she’d be up until midnight. Thankfully she is good about having “quiet time” periodically throughout the day.

 

[nurrse7075]

@brhjz I knew I was OaD before I even got pregnant but my daughter being super easy sealed it for me. That and pregnancy being a murderous hell hole.

 

[ambiencerain37]

@nurrse7075

That and pregnancy being a murderous hell hole.

Ha, I remember a stranger in the elevator saying something like "doesn't it feel great being pregnant? I felt great all the time!" I just said "I feel awful all the time but I'm happy for you".

Being pregnant was THE WORST.

 

[darcycat1]

@ambiencerain37 Angry is my default emotion but I was angry 24/7 while pregnant.

 

[nurrse7075]

@ambiencerain37 My pregnant GF came over the other day and she was having the EXACT same pregnancy as me. I just wanted to hug her.
No sleep, insane swelling, sore joints.... fuck that fat fuck. Never again.

 

[ambiencerain37]

@nurrse7075 Ugh, poor thing. Being pregnant was awful.

 

[reformedpowerhouse]

@nurrse7075 Don’t forget about labor being a murderous hellhole at the end of the hellhole that is pregnancy.

 

[prop8voice]

@brhjz My SIL has 3 kids and often says the first one is easy to lull you in to a false sense of security to have another!

 

[cailet123]

@prop8voice Mine is the opposite which is one of the main reasons I’m oad

 

[kevinsof]

@cailet123 Same

 

[michaellloydpinq]

@cailet123 We were already OAD, but our only is an absolute tornado of a human. I can't fathom having the energy to keep a second one alive, too...

 

[up_to_him]

@prop8voice I get told this a lot. My only was a lot to handle. I can't imagine how a second child would be.

 

[davesnothere]

@up_to_him Ditto!

 

[lenefa]

@prop8voice Same! Like I still wonder how some people can have more kids, daily. As my almost 5 year old boy is often so difficult to handle!

 

[velour100]

@brhjz yup! already had my awesome unicorn baby, why would i chance it. there’s no guarantee that a second would be nearly as a easy. plus, knowing myself, i would compare a new baby to how my 7yo was as a baby and that’s not fair to anyone.

but i already decided i was OAD while pregnant so

any reason to be OAD is a valid reason.

 

[lenefa]

@velour100 Well said