@coolguy123 I spent my entire pregnancy panicking and stressed about how life with twins would be possible, how wrecked my body was gonna be, how we were going to manage 4 kids (we had a 5 year old and a 1 year old. Anyone that would tell me “oh I have twins!” I would genuinely ask if I was going to make it through this.
The babies turned a year in January. I did, in fact, survive lol. Every twin mom told me that most important was keeping them on the same schedule and that has been true. It ends up feeling more like 1.5 babies rather than a full 2 because they did everything at the same time. Eat, go down for nap, diaper changes, baths, getting dressed. We ended up gating off every opening to our living room and essentially made it a giant childproof playpen. That helped. I was able to do non-baby things while they had freedom to roam.
My body wasn’t as wrecked as I feared, but a year postpartum and I still hate it. I figure it will get better with time, I keep telling myself that anyway. I had quit working just a few months before getting pregnant with them so I could stay home with my older 2. I am confident I would’ve had to quit anyway once they were born. I don’t know how we would do it otherwise. Unless you have a lot of family help willing to watch your kids during the day, or the money to pay for that many kids in daycare. It just worked out cheaper for me to quit working.
I will say, people love to help twins. I mean, people in general are pretty helpful but it’s different now. They see me carrying two babies and immediately rush to help, always, even people I don’t know very well. And I guess my threshold of accepting help has changed because typically, I mean yeah I could use your extra hands lol.
Also, kids resale shops are my life. The one by me gives you extra money if you accept in-store credit, and I bring in so much stuff since there’s 2 of them. I use the credit to buy essentials. And the way I dress my kids has changed…I used to have allll the outfits for my older two, but now there just isn’t time. The babies are typically in white onesies with pants added if it’s cold. I just don’t have the bandwidth to coordinate outfits, or even care at this point. They’re dressed, and we can move on. You just find ways to make it easier, just out of necessity because there’s 2. I feel like I have learned so many quick tricks with the twins that I never discovered with the older 2 kids.
You’ve got this! Don’t get down on yourself for hating this, you are not alone! Life will find a way, it just may not be what you’d planned or hoped. And that super sucks, but there will be fun and good things that come out of that, too. Solidarity my friend!
