@britbrit90s Honestly thinking about it I did grow up with a single mom and no dad around, so you're probably right that it's me who's the odd one out here.
(For reference though this is my second mother's day and my husband is spoiling me! He's the best)
@nkirote Very interesting to me with the replies on this comment, with pregnant mothers not wanting to be wished a Mother’s Day. I see it as you are already putting so much sacrifice in the name of motherhood, being pregnant can be so challenging.
I was really wanting to wish a friend whose going through her first known pregnancy (I believe she’s around 7 months) a Mothers Day but now I’m having second thoughts. I don’t want to jinx it or make her uncomfortable
@arrabon It just depends on the person! I told my husband last week that I would appreciate a card. He gave me the sweetest card and said I’m doing a great job cooking our baby! And gave me candy
@arrabon I didn't really want a mother's day while pregnant because I didn't feel like a mother yet, but I still would have really appreciated the care and thoughtfulness of such a wish from a friend. I'd definitely go for it!
@arrabon Same! I have two close friends and two of us had babies last fall, the third got pregnant just after we had ours and I know she feels a bit “left behind” because we got to do the pregnancy/newborn stuff together. I thought wishing her a happy Mother’s Day while she’s pregnant might make her smile.
I think I’ll still do it, most people IRL take these things with the good intent they are meant with.
@arrabon I was surprised at some of the other replies too! My wife is 8 months pregnant with our first, and she very much wanted/appreciated the Mother's Day experience I gave her. So yeah, it really does vary from person to person
@arrabon I was three months pregnant last year on Mother’s Day, so I personally did not feel like the holiday applied to me yet. Maybe I would’ve felt differently had I been further along, but at that point, I was barely showing and not far enough along to feel kicks or movement. But it totally depends on the mama to be.
@brittandjoe Agreed. When was in early third trimester with my first, I did not feel like being celebrated on mother's day. I celebrated my mother and probably talked about being able to celebrate as a mother the following year.
@brittandjoe I’m curious as to why! For me, being pregnant meant I was already making sacrifices, and therefore was already a mother. I couldn’t have/do many things that I loved. I had to change my entire diet. I would faint. I couldn’t stand for long periods. All of those were beginning sacrifices for motherhood. Not to mention my love for my unborn baby.
@derriskrause You never know what someone else is going through. I was 30 weeks pregnant on Mother’s Day last year, and my own mother was in the hospital dying. I think it’s fine for people to do whatever they want for themselves. I loved my unborn child just as much as the pregnant moms who chose to celebrate Mother’s Day. And this year is special because it’s my first with my daughter. Though it’s also the first without my mom. Bittersweet
@nkirote That may depend on the person—I was very pregnant for Mother’s Day with my first, and I absolutely did not want to be treated like a mom. I’d had a few early miscarriages and hadn’t carried to term, so I think it felt like jinxing it?? Not 100% sure but I made sure my husband knew not to do anything.
@morganrobertson I was in my third trimester last Mother’s Day and I was happy to have been wished a Mother’s Day on behalf of our cat. This year is entirely different.
@morganrobertson I agree! I was super pregnant last Mother’s Day and felt uncomfortable when people wished me a happy Mother’s Day. Being pregnant is hard work but it’s not as hard as being a Mom, and I didn’t feel as through I deserved to be celebrated like that yet. It made me feel weird.
@morganrobertson I guess it just depends! I was due 3 days ago, so I’m enjoying the recognition. My husband isn’t doing anything crazy, just verbally wished me happy mother’s days and is making me whatever breakfast I want.
Either way, I don’t think we should normalize the idea of NOT recognizing women as being mothers while pregnant. Just adds fuel to the fire for people who want to minimize others.
@pravoslavie Yep it definitely depends! I’m glad you’re getting what you need. What we probably need to normalize is communicating with your partner lol
