gembeldolar
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My husband and I are high income. I came from a middle class background, he’s from a lower-middle class background. We’ve been together over five years, married with a one year old.
Moved into a much bigger house last year and with that have more chores. Laundry. Cleaning. Lawn care. Dishes. It’s nonstop.
He refuses to hire out any of this work. His mom’s a cleaning lady and he keeps saying he’d quit running (he ran 1000 miles last year) before hiring someone to clean our house. Ok but that’s never happening so … why even act like it’s an option?
Generally I just pick away at some things during the week and we clean the house deeply before we have parties a few times a year. That means our floors get washed max once a month. Bathrooms cleaned 1-2 x a month. And it takes so much time and exhausts him to do. He spends hours and hours on lawn care. Our house isn’t messy but I hate spending so much time on this.
If we spent 5% of our take home pay on a cleaner and lawn care we’d get so much time an energy back but he still has this mindset like we make as much as we did five years ago. I just got a huge promotion and I feel like I can’t do anything to make my life easier.
Any thoughts?
Moved into a much bigger house last year and with that have more chores. Laundry. Cleaning. Lawn care. Dishes. It’s nonstop.
He refuses to hire out any of this work. His mom’s a cleaning lady and he keeps saying he’d quit running (he ran 1000 miles last year) before hiring someone to clean our house. Ok but that’s never happening so … why even act like it’s an option?
Generally I just pick away at some things during the week and we clean the house deeply before we have parties a few times a year. That means our floors get washed max once a month. Bathrooms cleaned 1-2 x a month. And it takes so much time and exhausts him to do. He spends hours and hours on lawn care. Our house isn’t messy but I hate spending so much time on this.
If we spent 5% of our take home pay on a cleaner and lawn care we’d get so much time an energy back but he still has this mindset like we make as much as we did five years ago. I just got a huge promotion and I feel like I can’t do anything to make my life easier.
Any thoughts?