I hate the notion that SAHPs are gold diggers/lazy

[katrina2017]

@choosehappiness I bet it’s lonely af too. There’s a few apps for moms to make friends and set up play dates but I haven’t seen any mixed or for dads.

Just sayin’, I see you.

 

[choosehappiness]

@katrina2017 I’m actually trying to create a local platform for such a thing since my city is a very active one and I do occasionally run into other dads that are in my situation while out and about.

 

[katrina2017]

@choosehappiness Nice! Be the change you want to see and all that. We’re about to move to super tiny town, so I’m hoping to eventually just know everyone.

 

[bharati21]

@choosehappiness My friend found herself as admin of the local mommy FB group, it was overrun by spam and the person who had it didn’t want to do it anymore.

First change was renaming it from “Moms” to “Parents”.

 

[joaa]

@choosehappiness Yeah I'm betting the stigma as a SAHD is way worse than as a SAHM. More power to you, you're doing what's best for your family and I love that.

 

[choosehappiness]

@joaa And it can be quite fun. I also like that by being the one that handles the cooking and shopping, I get to eat a whole lot more of what I want to and like. If I want to drop everything and just go to the zoo or museums with my kids for the day. I think more men need to grasp doing this because the kids benefit so much from having both parents available to experience the smaller parts of life.

 

[ayopaul]

@daryle I'm sick of the comments and posts by SAHP asking if they should send their kids to daycare because they're missing out. Like we are selfish to keep our kids home.

There's advantages to daycare just like anything, but there's no better place for a young kid than home with a SAHP. Let's be real. Not saying daycare is a bad place, but if you're staying home with your kid do not feel bad that your kid is missing out on daycare. It's unbelievable to me that this is a common thought.

 

[seanjm]

@ayopaul Also kids don't really remember daycare. How can I say I missed out on an experience when I have to be told who watched me when I was that young? While it likely guided how I turned out as a person, I simply don't remember who watched me from newborn to 3yo and I don't care. Parents should choose what works best for them.

 

[ayopaul]

@seanjm Yeah that's a good point, I've never heard anyone say "I really feel daycare at 2 shaped me as the adult I am today" haha

 

[shotmike]

@seanjm I remember daycare. The other kids hit me all the time.

 

[nevadabest]

@ayopaul The children with a parent at home are more confident, more intelligent, and tend to be more successful in life.
People are morons.

 

[ayopaul]

@nevadabest I think it's the best case scenario, yeah, but I don't like to say they'll be better than the kids in daycare since a good chunk of kids are. I think there's advantages and disadvantages. I think kids in daycare for example talk more quickly and pick up a lot from seeing other kids do things. Interaction is better probably.

 

[katma]

@daryle Facts. Keeping house and home and raising children is the hardest, most rewarding, and most important jobs anyone can have. It is a travesty that this is looked down upon.

 

[christianpurpose]

@daryle Or other women talking about their independence and how they don’t rely on anyone. Well good for you, but this isn’t a one way street.

 

[mrrunningfish]

@christianpurpose This is the one! This is most of the comments I get. Usually from the same people who are always trying to trick or coerce their partners/others into paying for things for them like… please make it make sense. Sorry having an actual agreement over shared finances is somehow less independent because I don’t actively bring in any? Eye roll.

 

[denise1961]

@christianpurpose I used to be one of those women but I had to learn my husband wants and needs me to rely on him and it's better for our marriage if I give up the strong independent woman thing and actually let myself be vulnerable to letting someone help me. It's weird to me to have that attitude in a marriage or long term relationship.

 

[christianpurpose]

@denise1961 What keeps me secure is just the knowledge that if I needed to support myself, I could. But I don’t want to. I enjoy my partnership and that vulnerability. Plus, they are only little for such a short time, I’d rather spend it with the babies.

 

[columbian1414]

@christianpurpose Lmao except they rely on their boss to get paid. Sorry but these are the same women that end up on the askwomenover30 sub talking about how lonely they are

 

[christianpurpose]

@columbian1414 I’d much rather answer to my tiny tyrant boss.

 

[columbian1414]

@christianpurpose Same!