Don’t expect your babies to do things they haven’t been shown

[preachermanrkl]

@freddyfreddo *shakes head*

 

[whiteisfamily]

@cph I always use the toolbox metaphor for things like this.

Why would you expect them to have a tool in the toolbox if they never got the tool.

 

[cph]

@whiteisfamily Yep, as I say it’s idiotic and i feel incredibly stupid but until my partner said it I couldn’t break the negative thought process that she was delayed in something

 

[tabamalk]

@cph It’s ok to cut yourself some slack.

This perspective and style of teaching is a tool that no one ever gave you - until now!

But now you know, and knowing is half the battle.

 

[whiteisfamily]

@cph Not at all! So many things are taken for granted/automatic. I mainly use it because I am on the spectrum and realized that its okay that I don’t know things since I have to consciously build the habit.

 

[vhreb]

@cph Being a dad/parent is hard! Put in the work, and you’ll get something out of it.

Every kid progresses at a different pace. I wouldn’t sweat it too much.

 

[mamma1]

@cph I put in loads of effort showing my baby how to clap. she finally clapped! then we told the day care teacher and she said "oh, baby did it yesterday!"

thanks for sharing though. makes so much sense!

 

[euphoria7]

@mamma1 I remember picking up my little one from daycare and the carer happened to mention that she was using sign language really well and to keep up practicing at home…….Only we had no idea she could sign, and had never once practiced signing with her. Sure enough, after googling it to see what baby sign language looks like, we noticed she was signing the whole goddamn time to us, we just had no idea! Even looking back through old videos she was clearly signing away and we were sitting there like two happy idiots totally unaware of all the hard work the daycare had been putting in. Those folks are saints.

 

[mamma1]

@euphoria7 wow that's amazing! I wish daycare had told you though so you could look out for the signs.

 

[cph]

@mamma1 My baby is not in any kind of daycare, but I’d bet it’s great for developing babies and toddlers. Where better to learn than a room with peers of their own age!

 

[mamma1]

@cph apparently all the others were clapping sonshe joined in. I was pleased of course, but gutted to miss it.

 

[swimmer]

@mamma1 Good daycare teachers will lie to you and go along with your baby doing it for the first time with you and not at the daycare. That should be daycare 101. Never tell the parents their baby walked before the parents see it.

 

[mrjesse]

@swimmer nah, just tell me the truth. I don't need to be coddled, my son does

 

[lakergirl]

@cph I read that babies that age develop better with one-on-one interaction with an older caregiver? In a daycare there might not be that intense interaction as the caregivers have more babies to look after. Once they are aged 3ish and are learning through play then they develop well with peers

 

[marantha]

@mamma1 What kind of day care does that to parents! How mean

 

[cindiefloss]

@cph In the wise words of my father:

“You gotta teach ‘em stuff”

 

[sneha123]

@cindiefloss Everything I can. Sometimes that means learning it myself. Tomorrow I tackle... well, tackle. Off-road adventure with some fishing in a week, it's been a loooooong time since I set up a rod.

 

[katrina2017]

@cph This is obviously anecdotal with a sample size of 1, but from the day our son was born, my wife and I narrated everything we did to him. And if the activity took longer than the sentence, I'd repeat it in slightly different ways.

I really attribute this to him speaking early and having a very strong vocabulary and sentence structures. Infant brains are evolved to learn as much as possible, so I totally agree that showing them a wide variety of things is critical for their development.

 

[erlewis]

@katrina2017 Our Daughter learned to read by being read to. We figured she had her favorite books memorized. A trip to the library and pulling multiple books she had never seen before disproved that.

 

[jayraytee]

@katrina2017 This makes sense! My husband and I are pretty quiet people in general, and I was worried my daughter was behind in learning to talk. But my husband reminded me "we don't talk much during the day either" so.... why would she? Then she started talking in like whole sentences and hasn't stopped talking sense lol