@jham123 I should add that at the end, I did step in and say the kids were not allowed to be near her. My ex and I have decent relationship, so in my case he honored my request. My kids are also older.
I did step in and threaten court because I came to a point that I was concerned for their safety. There was more than one incident. The first couple, I could only document. But least I had a leg to stand on. The last incident was her assaulting my ex out front of my youngest. That’s where I drew the line.
I always reiterate that he was always allowed to see the children, it was her that couldn’t. He worked with me because I worked with him. My kids relationship with their dad is just as important as mine. I also asked him straight out if my bf was doing what she was doing, what would he do. Then I asked the most important question, if I was no longer around, would he want her raising our kids. If the answer is no, then rethink your situation. They broke up.
I tell you that story because I want you yo know that I understand your position. But your hands are ultimately tied.
Just for future reference. Document, document, document. And text and email as much as you can.
But like I said. People grow and mature. We don’t why she did what she did. She could have been in a tough spot. She could have had a tough upbringing, so she protects herself by sounding tough and having thick skin. You don’t really know.