@hman I'm a single mom of 3 - my husband is an alcoholic not living at home. Here's what I ask for:
- Freezer meals (especially breakfasts)
- Help with childcare so I can get time alone
- Activity kits - I don't have time to plan crafts but the kids love them. Having someone plan and provide materials makes for such stress-free weekends
- Deep cleaning - I can usually cover day/day but the deep cleaning stuff (cleaning the fridge, baseboards, etc) doesn't get done often
- Door Dash gift cards - I have no way of just running to get food after the kids go to bed.
- Grocery delivery membership/credits
Sometimes it's hard to think of what to ask for - so I would suggest giving her a list and asking to please tell which of those she would find the most useful. It's hard to ask for help but still much appreciated.