katrina2017
New member
@rab1 3-4 year olds realize they can lie. The things they say, don't have to be true, and you can manipulate other people by saying things that aren't true. What fun! What a game!
Usually they're as horrible at lying as your kid, and it can get frustrating when they do it with inappropriate subjects or at inappropriate times - but it's totally typical.
Usually they're as horrible at lying as your kid, and it can get frustrating when they do it with inappropriate subjects or at inappropriate times - but it's totally typical.
vincentpellerin
New member
jep4christ
New member
katrina2017
New member
@rab1 One strategy I've read about in prep for my own kiddo getting this age is to ask questions instead of making assertions. Kids with a strong will (like saying "these are the rules, you're wrong") always know better, and often have a strong sense of right and wrong too. They supposedly respond better to being given some personal autonomy than being told to follow rules.
@rab1 I died at, "Tuesdays are weekends."
My 4yr old does the exact same thing.
Just enjoy it because he is still at an age where everything is possible.
Trust me...I know sometimes you just want to throw them through the couch lol.
But 20 seconds later they will have you laughing your ass off.
Hey Dad, guess what?
What?
Hey...
What?
Hey dad!
WHAAAAAAAT?!?
...I love you.
Also I'm hungry and I want chic fil a nuggets but I don't like their fries so we need McDonald's too...and sonic has the best ice cream.
My 4yr old does the exact same thing.
Just enjoy it because he is still at an age where everything is possible.
Trust me...I know sometimes you just want to throw them through the couch lol.
But 20 seconds later they will have you laughing your ass off.
Hey Dad, guess what?
What?
Hey...
What?
Hey dad!
WHAAAAAAAT?!?
...I love you.
Also I'm hungry and I want chic fil a nuggets but I don't like their fries so we need McDonald's too...and sonic has the best ice cream.
@sarahjg94 He wasn’t negotiating. He was just refuting the false statements. Negotiating would have been something like, “If you finish your breakfast, we will have ice cream later.” OP didn’t concede anything.
katrina2017
New member
@saclaf what Do you think about the following adjustment:
op: eat your breakfast, we don't wanna be late for school
kid: we will be late for school
op: Thanks for eating your breakfast like you are supposed to!
still responsive, but not engaging in ridiculousness. Positive but continuing to set expectations.
In this situation I think one or two times out the door without breakfast will be a valuable lesson learned too
op: eat your breakfast, we don't wanna be late for school
kid: we will be late for school
op: Thanks for eating your breakfast like you are supposed to!
still responsive, but not engaging in ridiculousness. Positive but continuing to set expectations.
In this situation I think one or two times out the door without breakfast will be a valuable lesson learned too
fleshisweak
New member
@katrina2017
I don't know what your five year-old is like, but mine has a hard time learning abstract lessons like that when the decision (not eating breakfast) is separated from the consequence (feeling hungry) by several hours and a complete change of context.
I don't know what your five year-old is like, but mine has a hard time learning abstract lessons like that when the decision (not eating breakfast) is separated from the consequence (feeling hungry) by several hours and a complete change of context.
katrina2017
New member
@fleshisweak You're right of course, there will never be any "One right way" to address any situation… There's probably as many different reactions to this as there are kids in the world.