I could do with some advice and people’s opinion on this.
My partner and I are firmly (absolutely firmly) OAD. I only ever wanted one but with the combination of my age (40 next year), a traumatic pregnancy, a difficult birth and a baby who almost died in his first week has absolutely cemented it for me. Partner and I are getting married next year and are fully committed to one another. He also totally agrees on the OAD.
I’ve been on birth control 20+ years with two breaks. I was on Evra (contraceptive patch) before and after our planned pregnancy and have just had the Mirena IUD fitted, largely for horrendous periods and lots of mid-cycle bleeding, for which they know the cause. Because of health problems, they’ve had to fit it really low down and the doctor has advised that whilst it’ll be good for my periods (it’s working!), we can’t rely on it for contraception.
I can go back on the patch but honestly, I don’t want to. I’ll have even more hormones in my body with that and the IUD and I feel so much better not being on it in terms of mood and outlook on life.
I would love my partner to get a vasectomy but he’s reluctant. He doesn’t like the idea of a medical procedure (I had an emergency c-section so I don’t think he has anything to complain about!) and feels that while he is absolutely OAD, it just feels very “final”. I get that, but equally I feel that I’ve done my time with contraception and it seems the most obvious solution.
Can anyone give any advice? Are there any other options? I believe a procedure for women does exist, but am I right in saying they’d really only do it for medical reasons rather than choice? Am in the U.K. for context.
I wanted to post here because I don’t want people trying to convince me that I’ll change my mind re OAD. If I became pregnant again, I would choose to have an abortion, so having a reliable form of contraceptive is very important.
EDIT - bit of an update. He’s done some research today in his own time and is much more keen. We’ve pencilled in another conversation early next month but his plan is to make a doctor’s appointment then. Thanks for all of your advice and perspectives!
My partner and I are firmly (absolutely firmly) OAD. I only ever wanted one but with the combination of my age (40 next year), a traumatic pregnancy, a difficult birth and a baby who almost died in his first week has absolutely cemented it for me. Partner and I are getting married next year and are fully committed to one another. He also totally agrees on the OAD.
I’ve been on birth control 20+ years with two breaks. I was on Evra (contraceptive patch) before and after our planned pregnancy and have just had the Mirena IUD fitted, largely for horrendous periods and lots of mid-cycle bleeding, for which they know the cause. Because of health problems, they’ve had to fit it really low down and the doctor has advised that whilst it’ll be good for my periods (it’s working!), we can’t rely on it for contraception.
I can go back on the patch but honestly, I don’t want to. I’ll have even more hormones in my body with that and the IUD and I feel so much better not being on it in terms of mood and outlook on life.
I would love my partner to get a vasectomy but he’s reluctant. He doesn’t like the idea of a medical procedure (I had an emergency c-section so I don’t think he has anything to complain about!) and feels that while he is absolutely OAD, it just feels very “final”. I get that, but equally I feel that I’ve done my time with contraception and it seems the most obvious solution.
Can anyone give any advice? Are there any other options? I believe a procedure for women does exist, but am I right in saying they’d really only do it for medical reasons rather than choice? Am in the U.K. for context.
I wanted to post here because I don’t want people trying to convince me that I’ll change my mind re OAD. If I became pregnant again, I would choose to have an abortion, so having a reliable form of contraceptive is very important.
EDIT - bit of an update. He’s done some research today in his own time and is much more keen. We’ve pencilled in another conversation early next month but his plan is to make a doctor’s appointment then. Thanks for all of your advice and perspectives!
