@shanrobert Beautiful!!!!! The fruits of your “labor.” It blows my mind how people use the term “Velcro baby” to talk about how their baby never “leaves them alone” or whatever. Baby wearing is the perfect soultion and your story is much like other AP parents who have “Velcro baby” and are amazing well adjusted, secure attachment baby/child. Congrats mama
@marycris I have to say, before I had a baby I was „neutral“ about sleep training (as in „it would definitely not be something I would do, but every family is different“-neutral). But after I had my daughter hearing her cry makes me tense up and I feel like someone hit me in the stomach. The only thing I wanna do in that moment is comfort her. So, when I hear people talk about CIO it makes me physically sick to think about the poor kids who just want their parents and have no other way to communicate…
@shanrobert This is me and my son! Everyone was shocked at how calm he was as a baby. He’d sleep on anyone! And I genuinely contribute that to all of his cries being answered, needs immediately met, and comforting him to sleep. He’s 100% a Velcro baby and I’ll be the other half of his Velcro as long as he lets me!
@marycris Cuddles on vacation made me tear up a little bit. These humans are so beautiful, sometimes I forget they'll be big humans one day. It's comforting to know old habits die hard. I personally have a not so great relationship with my mom and my husbands family is lovely and supportive but not very warm or touchy feely. Thanks for your perspective about the future it gives me great joy.
@marycris Wow! How was it with the first 3 so close in age? I’m pregnant with baby #3 and a little terrified if I’m being honest. I’m glad to know it can be done without compromising your parenting style!
@marycris A mum group I’m in described cuddling her toddler to sleep as a ‘waste of time’ and it made me so sad! I have never met another mum irl who parented in a similar way to me. Which is fine. But it makes me sad for the kids. I think a lot of parents are all for cuddling newborns but when they get to be toddlers or older kids thats the cut off for affection at night. Its so crazy to me!
@jasa Me too. There's another one that gets me too. Its hard to hear people say "I don't have time" to do something that meets the need of a child who is literally incapable of doing it on their own. I wonder why these people became parents when they think raising them is such a waste of time, or they can't afford to make the time to do it.
@marycris I just joined this sub and honestly had no idea that AP was a ‘type’ of parenting. IMHO it’s just parenting. Everyone does it different and that’s ok. A little more snuggles here or less discipline there. It’s amazing to see all the labels though.
@marycris The first week home I was telling my mom how much I liked to cuddle with my babe, she swiftly told me not to do that or else I wouldn't be able to get anything done. And here I thought cuddling was important....leave those refrigerator moms at the door and embrace giving all of your love to your family. When theirs is rife with problems that never seem to end they'll be looking to medicate the poor children who are acting out against neglect!
@marycris Last week I attended a wedding in my hometown and it made me realise just how much of an echo chamber I’ve created about my parenting ideas.
I met with old friends and every single one of them was horrified that I cosleep and assumed I want to stop doing it. Two of them sent me the contact info for their sleep coaches. They all seemed so relieved that their baby sleeps away from them. I was… surprised. I enjoy having my baby close to me. I want to have my baby close to me. It feels natural and right.
@itrustjehovah93 A grifter who makes exhausted parents believe sleeping is not developmental and is a skilled babies need to learn (usually by being left alone to cry).
@davey_0373 I can’t believe this is a thing lol! People pay for this??? Like Cesar Milan but instead of training dogs to obey he trains humans to sleep?! Im dumbfounded right now lol
@marycris My mama heart can’t stand to hear a cry. I’ve tried to sleep and let my 20 month old CIO because I was sooo tired of nights without sleep. Couldn’t do it. Would rather die than hear my baby cry. It’s painful.
@marycris This is so sad. I absolutely hate hearing about CIO. I try not to be a judgmental mom but that just hits a nerve. I've told people I will wake up every two hours with my baby until he is six before I do CIO. I could never handle it.
@marycris The way humans have gotten so out of touch is so heartbreaking. I am as attached to my son as he is to me, it’s so damn annoying when people try and make it seem weird or bad.
It’s so hard too because all the other moms my age (i’m 21 these other people my age are nuts!!!) literally have no idea about anything and are kind of just immature. I just dont vibe with them its so lonely. I love this subreddit
