I did it. I left him. I am not okay

[panictopeace]

@mdjuelrana Thank you so much.
I am so grateful for this community.

 

[brokenbonds]

@panictopeace This is the best thing you could have done for your daughter AND for yourself. I know it seems scary right now, but you’ll get through it and be better on the other side.

I’ve been through it myself, and I won’t lie and say it’ll be easy, but it will absolutely be worth it to be free from the constant abuse and be able to raise your daughter in a safe environment.

 

[panictopeace]

@brokenbonds Thank you very much.
It really really helps to hear you say that.

It's very not easy, but there is already an extremely small part of that Is relived that I left.

 

[brokenbonds]

@panictopeace The part that is relieved will get louder over time…Have you reached out to any lawyers just yet to see what needs to be done for custody?

 

[panictopeace]

@brokenbonds The shelter I'm staying at will help me with that.
I think i need to pass quarantine first? But they have lots of resources here to help me.
They said already that they will walk me through what to expect and that they will serve him.

 

[brokenbonds]

@panictopeace Oh good! That’s great news!

 

[monk64]

@panictopeace From someone who left an abusive man: I know how hard it is. I know how exhausting it is. We see the effort it took to get out and we are so damn proud of you.

Limit contact to court-mediated stuff, nothing personal. Focus on your healing and put yourself first.

You’ve done what’s best for you and your daughter. I am so glad you’re safe. I’m rooting for you!

 

[panictopeace]

@monk64 Thank you.

No, you are definitely right.
Try and keep it about court stuff.

And yeah, it is hard.

Thank you again.

 

[kipperbomb]

@panictopeace You've got this. You are not overreacting. Try to remember or even write down the facts of what he's done to you, and how he made you feel. It will get harder, but not much, and then it will get better.