@j2019 I 10000% agree with the person who brought up overstimulation and constant information and instant gratification. Obviously not a popular thing to say on a social media app, but it’s a 180 in terms of my energy levels on the days I’m on my phone a ton vs the days I have only 30 min of non work screen time.
But I think another difference is we have so much lifestyle creep compared to back then. My family was very similar to yours OP (my mom worked 4-7 days a week with 12 hour nursing shifts, my dad worked 2 full time nursing jobs). Additionally my mom was taking care of her aging/dementia parents from when I was 0-16. But I felt like they were very present parents, the house was spotless, and we had home cooked meals every day too.
But also, they didn’t have social media worrying them about all the ways they’re parenting wrong and causing anxiety. They could just focus on doing what they think is best without the noise (of course family or friends can be judgey still, but that’s way different from thousands of random opinions). Us kids had chores/responsibilities around the house, like our parents weren’t pushing us to be “the best” at X and supplementing that with extracurricular and whatnot, like a lot of families do today, so we were home a lot to help take care of things. And we ate a ton of leftovers vs today it feels like most people are cooking new things every night because they hate leftovers and wondering why they’re tired.
With all that said, life is so different now and I wouldn’t necessarily compare her to you because you ARE parenting in a much harder “mode”. But I would also try to encourage you to try a week of cutting your phone time in half and see if it affects how you feel!