Can’t Lose the Damn Weight - 2 Years Postpartum

@dingo99 My toddler eats a variety of things, but enjoys things like pasta, burrito bowls, dumplings, and meatballs the most. She has been very small her whole life, so we try to feed her more calorie dense items. Good for you if your toddler will eat a piece of salmon and roasted veg and that’s a good meal for them. But that’s not the case for everyone.
 
@morirach Those things you listed are included in my list. Your posts do not make sense. We eat those things all the time too and I am eating a calorie deficient.

Edit: Don't mean to sound like a jerk btw, just being real with you like I would a friend.
 
@meenu She was asking a genuine question. There’s nothing wrong with eating things high in fat/sugar in moderation. But the poster stated they focus on protein/fruit/veggies/grains and OP seemed surprised that she could eat those things on a regular basis. Not once did she judge what her or her toddler eats.
 
@torolf She said in her post that she was trying to give her toddler foods higher in carbs and fat than she was looking to eat, and this post specifically calls out whole grains and healthy fats as things her toddler should be eating. We don’t know if this parent has a picky toddler whose accepted carbs and fats are things like mac and cheese. It comes across as implying that if you can’t eat what your toddler is eating then you are not feeding your toddler a healthy diet.
 
@morirach Yes, also carrying 20lbs that I just can’t lose. I’m an older Mom (late 30s) and have PCOS which makes weight loss difficult.

I have an aversion to calorie tracking, it’s not good for my mental health, so I’m just focused on moving my body daily and working on making my inner monologue kinder.
 
@morirach I lost the weight and more (I was overweight pre pregnancy) but my body is just different now, everything is wider (even my feet!) and squishier and softer. Three kids in two and a half years was hard on my body. I am just growing to accept that this is me now, and I don’t want to constantly be talking about losing weight in front of my daughters. I definitely eat differently than they do because when I eat pastas and carbs which my kids love I tend to gain quickly and I have little self control around carbs lol. So I’ll have a salad with protein or something with protein and veggies while they eat what they like. My house growing up was a constant state of diet talk and weight loss and it really affected me, so I feel like as long as we are healthy, and have a healthy relationship with food in our house I am learning to be ok with looking different after kids! It’s such a tough balance
 
@morirach Haha yeppp. I am not far off from my pre-pregnancy weight, but all the weight is in my stomach or hips I guess. So yea, I’m 4 sizes bigger now. It sucks.

What’s most annoying is I’ve been this weight before and wore my pre-pregnancy size or 1 size up.

No time or energy to workout and still nursing 13 months pp.
 
@morirach I'm probably the same weight as I was when I gave birth, if not more. I had my daughter at 37 and I'm 40 now, so weight is naturally harder to loose....but the kicker is I'm now in perimenopause 🤣 Life is cruel.
 
@morirach I Can relate to this a lot. For me, I didn’t start trying to lose weight til my daughter was around 16m old. We eat the same things she does because I agree it sends a bad message that mommy can only eat salads so I just work on portion control—and still worry that the fact I always finish my food is still damaging to her.

I’ve started implementing a healthy breakfast (eggs and toast with jam), a sensible portion for lunch and dinner, no soda or drinking calories outside my sugar free coffee creamer, and then only having 1-2 pieces of chocolate a day for my sweet treat (~100 calories).

It’s not perfect by any means but over the last 3 months I have sloooowwwwwllllyyyyy lost 10lbs. I still have another 10-15 to go to hit my pre-pregnancy weight which is another 10lbs over my “ideal” weight, but I’m making progres!

It’s fucking hard and it sucks but I’m hoping to get to a good weight before my daughter is old enough to understand dieting so I don’t put that image on her. What motivates me most is sending the right message to my daughter to take care of her body and be as healthy as she can be—which includes chocolate and treats!
 
@radicalpeng I’m sorry for unsolicited comment, but toast with jam is not a healthy breakfast. It’s just empty carbs and sugar. Eggs and toast with avocado is much better alternative and will keep you full longer
 
@lydia90 Eggs and toast with jam is perfectly fine if that works for her. If the sugar from jam satisfies a craving and prevents and overeating later then it’s perfect.

Boiled chicken and broccoli for every meal would be “better” but we live in the real world where weight loss is mostly mindset. Eating only “healthy” meals causes many people to later binge as it’s not realistic to never eat a bit of sugar.

You also have no idea if the “jam” if basically pure fruit and providing essential nutrients or if it’s pure artificial sugar.
 
@lydia90 You’re right, avocado is a healthy fat. But carbs are good for you too so toast isn’t bad. The jam I buy is all natural from a little local spice shop, but yes avocado would be better, but that is much more expensive. And if a little jam keeps me on my healthier breakfast than grabbing a donut or sugary drink on the way to work, then I think it’s worth a little sugar. I never said I was the model of a perfect diet, just that im making better choices overall 🙃
 
@morirach You don't have to eat everything your toddler is eating. You can eat just a small amount of the carbs and a larger amount of the veggies, or you can make a healthy side dish.
 
@cinamon I assume she’s saying that a toddler is a lot more likely to eat an apple with peanut butter (carbs and fat) than a salad with veggies and a vinaigrette. Maybe you have a magic toddler, but mine definitely doesn’t eat salads.
 
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