jollybriston
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@dallasthomas The kid's clothing sizes are so annoying!
Annoying comments about my son being small
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catholicdude
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@pentie2003 My son was always on the smaller side while my nephews were always mammoths. They are all grown now and my son is still the smallest of the boy cousins, but my son is in the Air Force so he has some self assurance about himself.
pastabelly
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@pentie2003 I'm 5' and my husband is 5'4 so our children are on the small side Naturally. And we still get comments constantly saying oh how much smaller they are than their cousins
@pastabelly I am just curious, do you have a boy? If so how tall was he at 2? My sons father and are similar in height to the two of you, so I was just curious.
pastabelly
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@corrina98 We have 3 and they range between the 5th% and 16th% after they turn a 1.
@pastabelly Same. I think my son was 32.5 inches at 2. He has stayed now around the 20 percentile. How old are yours?
nissan4lifeyo
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@pentie2003 Both my babies were smaller (6 lbs even and 6 lbs 10 oz) and I was induced at 37 weeks for both. They were both tiny for the first few months but then caught up and were bigger (well, my youngest has been chunkier but not tall- and my oldest has been taller and broader)- but I remember how many comments we got when they were tiny and I didn’t like it. Lots of people asked if they were preemies, and it always made me feel like I was doing something wrong like not feeding them enough or something. You could just lean into it and be like “He’s my sweet little guy- isn’t he adorable?” or if he’s not really that small percentile wise you could say “oh haha actually he’s about average percentile wise according to his doctor.”
katrina2017
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@pentie2003 I get this so much from my MIL about my son. Last time I looked at her and said “when I saw baby pictures of your son (his father), I stopped worrying so much because he was so small too!” Lolol I turned that around on her and now she mostly makes comments about how picky he is because he doesn’t eat when he’s there, mostly because she’ll serve dinner at 340 when we ate lunch at 130.
pentie2003
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@katrina2017 Lmao! My mom told me to say this to my FIL because both my husband and his brother are exactly 6’0 but his dad is shorter and his mom is around 5’5 or 5’6. My mom said “we’ll it seems to run in the family.”
katrina2017
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@pentie2003 Honestly do it. Even if it doesn’t change their stupid comments, at least you get to see the look on their faces when they realize what you’re insinuating.
@pentie2003 My son is the same. He’s 3.5 and the size of a 2 year old. I have to clarify his age often. People do think he’s a genius because they wonder why this 2 year old “speaks so well”. I am sensitive about my own height so I take it to heart even though I know it’s just an observation. I have started saying he’s perfect sized. I have also started telling him that I am short and that I love being short 
@pentie2003 My son is a 10th percentile little dude. He’s perfectly healthy. Doctor is happy, I’m happy. He’s 11 months and eating me out of house and home.
All the other babies in my family are 90th or higher. My little dude was the shock of the century but anyone who comments negatively on his size gets my wrath.
All the other babies in my family are 90th or higher. My little dude was the shock of the century but anyone who comments negatively on his size gets my wrath.
lienbkhost
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@pentie2003 I just want to say people always comment on how absolutely huge my kiddos are. They were huge when they were born, and huge now. Their BMI is perfect and as long as the pediatrician is happy, I’m happy.
I think it’s entirely possible people are just saying it to have something to say. I think a lot of that just comes from people trying to place what kids are doing at whatever age. “Ohh you’re small for 2! Is he talking much?” If you don’t have a kid the same age it’s easy to forget (even now with a toddler I forget what babies are doing. When did they roll over?)
If it does feel like they’re being negative just say “his doctor says he’s totally fine!” And move on.
I think it’s entirely possible people are just saying it to have something to say. I think a lot of that just comes from people trying to place what kids are doing at whatever age. “Ohh you’re small for 2! Is he talking much?” If you don’t have a kid the same age it’s easy to forget (even now with a toddler I forget what babies are doing. When did they roll over?)
If it does feel like they’re being negative just say “his doctor says he’s totally fine!” And move on.
@pentie2003 I get the same comments... my daughter has a slender build and at 3 only weighs 28 lbs however she is quite tall. I have a similar build. When people make comments I just say that we come in all shapes and sizes, she is exactly as she is meant to be. Doctor isn't concerned as long as she keeps growing why should I be concerned?
To be honest though I work with infants that weigh more than my daughter at under a year old. I think it has just become more of a cultural norm to have bigger babies. My girl is still perfect the way she is as long as she is healthy and happy.
To be honest though I work with infants that weigh more than my daughter at under a year old. I think it has just become more of a cultural norm to have bigger babies. My girl is still perfect the way she is as long as she is healthy and happy.
@pentie2003 When my daughter was 2 she was smaller than her peers by quite a lot. She's 3 and a half now and one of the tallest at her nursery! Don't worry, he's fine! Tell everyone else to mind their own business!
@pentie2003 “Isn’t it just so interesting how different every baby is?”
My nephew is 5 months older than my daughter and he has always been on the 1% end of the percentile chart, while my daughter has always been at the 90%+ range. She’s been bigger than him since around 4-5 months old, and my SIL gets the “tiny guy” comments. I get the “she’s huge!” ones. We both just rinse and repeat the phrase above. There is nothing else to it. If you and your dr are not concerned, then nobody else should be either. I try very hard not to make comments about kids or other people like this.
We don’t walk up to strange adults and gush over how big or small they are; I’m not sure why we do it to children.
ETA I’m going to start coming up with utterly ridiculous responses to strangers who make comments on kids appearances. “Wow, she sure is big!” “Yeah, we were going for Spidey senses but the spider bite just made her insanely hungry, we can’t get her to stop eating, and she’s doubled in size in a week! Toddlers, you know, what can you do?!”
My nephew is 5 months older than my daughter and he has always been on the 1% end of the percentile chart, while my daughter has always been at the 90%+ range. She’s been bigger than him since around 4-5 months old, and my SIL gets the “tiny guy” comments. I get the “she’s huge!” ones. We both just rinse and repeat the phrase above. There is nothing else to it. If you and your dr are not concerned, then nobody else should be either. I try very hard not to make comments about kids or other people like this.
We don’t walk up to strange adults and gush over how big or small they are; I’m not sure why we do it to children.
ETA I’m going to start coming up with utterly ridiculous responses to strangers who make comments on kids appearances. “Wow, she sure is big!” “Yeah, we were going for Spidey senses but the spider bite just made her insanely hungry, we can’t get her to stop eating, and she’s doubled in size in a week! Toddlers, you know, what can you do?!”
pressingon2
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@pentie2003 I mean honestly it’s just a conversation starter. At least with strangers. My son is a giant and that also gets commented on. I comment on the height of kids but it’s never a bad thing. “Oh wow! He’s so small. He’s such a cutie!” “Wow! She’s so tall! She beautiful” etc.
pentie2003
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@pressingon2 When he was an infant before he started to crawl he was chunky because my breastmilk had a high fat content. Somebody in Walmart came up to us and said he was cute then asked if he was a premie because he was so small. So horrible conversation starter tbh right there but I get what you mean.
pressingon2
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@pentie2003 I understand the frustration. I do think people generally mean well. We’re social by nature and kids are the easiest way to start conversation. But I do get it. My son was a tiny NB and was in NB clothes until 3mo. They were huge on him until 6weeks.
As you said, all kids grow at different rates. If his doctor isn’t concerned just let it roll. My cousin was a preemie and was super small until 10. As an adult he’s 6’3”
As you said, all kids grow at different rates. If his doctor isn’t concerned just let it roll. My cousin was a preemie and was super small until 10. As an adult he’s 6’3”
parmabandit
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@pressingon2 That’s a terrible way to start a convo! It’s completely different to have a big kid- that comes off as a compliment- whereas when you have small kid it comes across as mom is doing something wrong.