@dayspringadelusi At 4 until 6 months ours went from a great sleeper to a terrible sleeper. Waking up every 30 minutes to an hour and only being able to sleep when I tried it. She didn't allow my wife to put her to bed. Started reading the free articles from taking Cara babies. That helped turn her into a great sleeper again in three weeks. I am so thankful I found that site!
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1 year and a half in - sleep is impossible
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@dayspringadelusi New dad of a 4 week old here. Our baby fights sleeping so hard. He slept for maybe an hour and a half total last night. We've tried so many things. White noise, rocking, gas drops, massaging. Nothing seems to wear him down. If he starts to doze off he quickly catches himself and squirms around and starts crying. He's just doing anything he can to stay awake.
I haven't heard of this program but I'm checking it out now. It's definitely worth it?
I haven't heard of this program but I'm checking it out now. It's definitely worth it?
dobbinmicky
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@jlmagee Hang in there new dad, it gets better. the first couple months are just survival mode. 4 weeks is way too young but you can start around 5-6 months.
I had a colicky one and the first four months were absolute hell. We did modified Ferber at 5 months and he’s been a champion sleeper ever since (about to be 12 months).
Edit: Snoo helped us immensely. I bought a used one off of Craigslist and deep cleaned it. It did end up having issues that I was able to disassemble + repair, so buyer beware
I had a colicky one and the first four months were absolute hell. We did modified Ferber at 5 months and he’s been a champion sleeper ever since (about to be 12 months).
Edit: Snoo helped us immensely. I bought a used one off of Craigslist and deep cleaned it. It did end up having issues that I was able to disassemble + repair, so buyer beware
@dobbinmicky What settings did you set the snoo to while doing Ferber? More than a 3/4 minutes of crying and ours turns off.
thomashanancy
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@fassy If your kid is still in the snoo (basinette) they are likely too young to doing any sleep training, including ferber method. Basinettes are usually used up to 3-4 months (keyword, usually). Anytime before 5 months they are too young and not developmentally mature enough for sleep training.
@thomashanancy I have two kids, my youngest is about to 5 and a half months and my oldest is 16 months. The plan right now is that I won't move my youngest out of the bassinet until he's sleeping through the night and can be in his brother's room without impacting his sleep.
Edited to add that my oldest was sleeping through the night at 12 weeks but was not gaining enough weight so we had to give him a bottle every 3 hours at night until he was about 6/7 months and then we had to give him one bottle in the middle of the night until a week before his brother was born. After that he would sporadically wake up once in the middle of the night (unless he's sick then it's crazy town) but for the most part sleeps from 7-8 uninterrupted.
Edited to add that my oldest was sleeping through the night at 12 weeks but was not gaining enough weight so we had to give him a bottle every 3 hours at night until he was about 6/7 months and then we had to give him one bottle in the middle of the night until a week before his brother was born. After that he would sporadically wake up once in the middle of the night (unless he's sick then it's crazy town) but for the most part sleeps from 7-8 uninterrupted.
dobbinmicky
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@dobbinmicky Ahh ok
praiseamen1
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@jlmagee I'm in the same boat as you at just about 4 weeks. Mine is sleeping a bit better than yours at night, but not by too much. I had a friend recommend Taking Cara Babies but its a bit pricey. I opted to buy the book Precious Little Sleep and I'm learning so much about babies, how they sleep, and how to (hopefully) be successful at independent sleep (when they're around 2-3 months at a minimum). You can pick up the book for 10 bucks and I think its worth it.
katrina2017
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@jlmagee I've got a 10 month old. Hang on, you're doing a great job, and you've got about another half month or so left before the baby becomes a big dopamine machine.
Kiddo is new to all this. Literally everything. All the things that our bodies already do that your kid's doesn't yet is effort. All that wiggling around they're doing when they're all swaddled up? They're moving things through their bodies (this break signifies a grumping baby that needed feeding and holding, and then overnight. I have returned to finish my thought.) You ever see those competitive eaters? They're wiggling around as they shove food inside them because they're moving food physically through their systems. That wiggling baby is doing the same, but on a smaller scale, and just starting off. They don't know how to move food or gas or a lot through their bodies, so they have to learn it all. Our kiddo didn't seem to need or use those Windy gas passers much, but I've heard other parent swear by them. I've had luck on our, and another kid who was born a few months after, with doing something we call "mixing it up" or, what I more informally call it "visiting the gas station". Grab those feets, do some bicycles, get those knees up high, rotate those knees around in a clockwise motion and help them get that gas through their system. Then lengthen those legs and then press those knees up and see if you can't get them to blast ass.
Kiddo is new to all this. Literally everything. All the things that our bodies already do that your kid's doesn't yet is effort. All that wiggling around they're doing when they're all swaddled up? They're moving things through their bodies (this break signifies a grumping baby that needed feeding and holding, and then overnight. I have returned to finish my thought.) You ever see those competitive eaters? They're wiggling around as they shove food inside them because they're moving food physically through their systems. That wiggling baby is doing the same, but on a smaller scale, and just starting off. They don't know how to move food or gas or a lot through their bodies, so they have to learn it all. Our kiddo didn't seem to need or use those Windy gas passers much, but I've heard other parent swear by them. I've had luck on our, and another kid who was born a few months after, with doing something we call "mixing it up" or, what I more informally call it "visiting the gas station". Grab those feets, do some bicycles, get those knees up high, rotate those knees around in a clockwise motion and help them get that gas through their system. Then lengthen those legs and then press those knees up and see if you can't get them to blast ass.
only2memberfamily
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@dayspringadelusi Same thing here!
warmsunset62
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@dayspringadelusi Came to suggest this program as well, our story is almost exactly the same.
@dayspringadelusi Would it work for a 16 month old? Lol
beginagain
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@saecerdos Their website says their program is for newborns through age four.
@beginagain Gonna check it out then. We don't have near as much trouble as OP, just a wake up or two every night but we'd like to get back to full nights of sleep. I'm sure night feeding is a main factor in it but he has tongue and lip ties so solids are a hit and miss throughout the day
@dayspringadelusi Did this for the first, same experience as you. Second kid, wife "felt bad" and we didn't. Baby didn't sleep through the night routinely until we moved her in with her brother at 21 months.
abandonedmemory
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@dayspringadelusi Does this program involve crying it out methods?
I am really curious
I am really curious
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