@merekas Same here except I’m being judged for staying home instead of going to get a job like a real woman to help my husband provide for us because we are struggling. My son just turned a year old and I’m still breastfeeding though only 2-4 times a day now. My son rejected both bottles and formula so until he started on baby food I was his ONLY source of food. I had to stop pumping after about 4 months because it was either i pump or I get some much needed sleep. I was suffering from postpartum depression and anxiety and wasn’t diagnosed until 5 months postpartum.
Also, I have no way to get him in daycare until after I get a job and even then I won’t be able to afford it. My MIL will be babysitting for me but not until mid-March for several reasons. So I’m stuck. But I still get comments about “your poor husband. He’s tired” “i feel bad for your husband” etc.
People don’t understand. Being a SAHP is a full time job. It’s not just “playing with babies” like my mom thinks. You don’t get to go home after a long day at home caring for a baby and just put your feet up, mentally check out, and watch tv or play a game until dinner. You’re on the clock 24/7. The parents who go to work get a mental break from caring for a small being who can’t take care of itself, or express itself in an understandable way. They get paid for their work and get to leave work at the end of the day.
It seems super easy to feel isolated and depressed when you don’t leave home very often.
I’m lucky I have a husband who understands and knows that he still has to be a father when he gets home. And he is an amazing father