@mercifulwoman CW: sub grad
Wanna hear something funny? I wrote the exact same thing in a draft in this sub 3 years ago. We ended up waiting for two more years before trying, and it came after doubling my salary through promotions that I worked very hard for.
+1 to the comment saying that your social security credits, contributions to private retirement accounts, personal identity, child socialization, and career trajectory are NOT nothing. 5-15k annually is absolutely NOT nothing. That's the difference between debt and not debt, saving for retirement vs not, having a vacation or not going.
Also to note, when we've had to keep our kid home because he's sick, it's
really difficult to get anything done. They need and deserve constant supervision and attention, so part-time freelance at home work might not be the solution you think it is.
On the other hand, if you aren't active in r/personalfinance or r/MoneyDiariesACTIVE, there are a lot of posts there about the daily finances of having kids. If you aren't budgeting or at the very least tracking your expenses and feel like you aren't able to make ends meet, that's a great place to start improving.