What milestones were hardest for you on your TTC journey?

[aspie3000]

@painkiller Just because you have a peak ovulation test doesn’t mean you ovulated. Are your cycles normal? Do you have a rise in your body temp? Do you watch your mucus? You can get kits that show progesterone rise which confirms ovulation

 

[jperez]

@hotinco When I knew I would not become a mother before 30. It was on cycle 6.
Then my MMC right before Christmas. It was my cycle 8. I'm still a mess even if it's been over two months. We had Christmas gifts for our family with little PJ for the announcement. The only thing missing was the US photo.
The next one will be not having a baby in 2024. If I don't get pregnant this cycle or the next one, I won't have a baby before 2025. I try not to think that if I don't get pregnant soon, the timing with my job will be horrible. I don't think we will have a baby in 2024 since it took us 8 cycles to conceive the first time.

 

[henrybryce]

@jperez Oh man, I remember looking at the due date calculator at the beginning of a new cycle and realising that ~if~ I got pregnant this time, I'd be due after my 30th. That hit hard. My 30th is just over a month away and I just know it's going to be horrible mentally.

 

[dks]

@hotinco Oh boy.

1. Miscarriage after getting pregnant after 3 months of trying. I'd just found out my best friend was pregnant. She was due 3 months before me. Her kid is now 2. I constantly compare my would-be baby to her son.
2. The first year anniversary of trying
3. The year anniversary of my 1st miscarriage- I was CONFIDENT I'd be pregnant by then.
4. 2 year mark
5. 3 year mark is approaching in May

 

[john938]

@hotinco The date I would have been due if my first chemical had stuck which also coincided with the day I realised I was having my 3rd chemical

 

[hotinco]

@john938 That’s so tough. Hugs

 

[michaelwayne57]

@hotinco The 9 month mark was rough, considering your chance of getting pregnant before the dreaded 1 year mark is dwindling and your per cycle chance take a nose dive after that. And that over 80% of people my age have already gotten pregnant. And also the dreaded “unexplained” diagnosis.

 

[hotinco]

@michaelwayne57 Couldn’t agree more.

 

[denraepat]

@hotinco Having my pack of pregnancy tests expire without ever seeing a positive.

 

[pinkfuzzies]

@denraepat This!

 

[dawns_kin]

@hotinco 6 month mark because I realized I wasn’t part of the 80% and knew something was wrong / knew I had a long journey ahead.

 

[hotinco]

@dawns_kin I really feel this

 

[funtimedude]

@hotinco I’m approaching month 8 as well. I would say 6 month mark was tough and turning 30 without a positive in sight. But feeling optimistic today! Everyday is different. Hang in there love

 

[hotinco]

@funtimedude Thank you

 

[donmn]

@hotinco For me it’s the holidays, last Christmas really hurt I really thought we’d be pregnant by then and now it’s looking like we won’t even have a baby by next Christmas it’s really hard not to think about the things coming up where I won’t have a baby/pregnancy

 

[doulos7]

@hotinco Lots of painful milestones. It’s a fight to appreciate other things I have in my life that are unrelated to TTC

• at 4 months i found out I had low AMH for my age and should see an RE
• missed miscarriage at 12w5d measuring 11 weeks (my NIPT and earlier scans were normal) the one appointment my husband didn’t come with me so I cried alone and had to commute home alone from the city crying on the train
• 33rd birthday a week after my miscarriage
• finding out I had a partial molar from genetic testing and can’t try again for a few months due to cancer risk
• the 1 year mark of getting my iud out
• my best friends baby shower who was due 3 weeks before I was supposed to be due

My latest milestone I hit today is waiting to enter month 4 again of TTC after my miscarriage just waiting for AF to arrive.

 

[frncsca]

@hotinco My SIL having her baby that was due 3 weeks before me, when I miscarried and still have no baby/pregnancy

Turning 35 2 weeks after my August MMC

Officially hitting 1 year of TTC in November

Realizing I probably won’t be pregnant again before my due date (3/26 or 4/1, my OB never actually settled on an official EDD)

Realizing i probably won’t even be having a 2024 baby.

Starting letrozole and feeling like I’m not good enough. Then needing a trigger shot to ovulate, breaking down and not being able to give it to myself because I couldn’t stop crying (husband saved the day there!)

 

[paul_217]

@hotinco Wow could have written this myself. Surprisingly the worst was at 3 months when I broke down and it hit me that it won’t be easy despite doing everything “right.” Then the next couple months were easier to process and I was more accepting of the journey.

Multiple friends got pregnant - muted instagram. Attended baby showers - smiled through the bitterness. Want to work more to distract myself and keep busy but I work with children so no way to not stress or think about TTC ever. Just enduring it all when each month feels like a year.

Now it’s 9 months and I’m on CD51 and each cycle just keeps getting longer, so this is what prompted me to literally be sitting in my doctor’s office as I type this waiting for blood work and ultrasound to get testing initiated.

You’re not alone.

 

[hotinco]

@paul_217 Thank you for sharing a part of your story. Sending positive energy your way

 

[openeddoors]

@hotinco Finding out friends are pregnant with their second after getting of BC the first month. Every month calculating when my due date would be. Every year I get older. Watching my friends children going through elementary school.