@riseup We don't sleep train, and right now, my three and a half month old sleeps a solid 8 to 10 hours at night, with one wake up for a bottle about 3 am.
We started a bedtime routine early in her life. Around 6 pm its bottle, bath, lavender lotion, and rocking her until she is asleep. If she wakes up and fusses, we let her fuss because most of the time, she will find her hand and suck on it to sleep. However, the moment she screams, one of us is up and comforting her.
We do have to keep it really dark in the room because she will stare at the light instead of sleeping. Our little firefly is obsessed with looking at lights.
At her age, all she knows is, "I scream and mama or daddy come and fix it." When I tell her, "it's okay, Mama is coming. You are safe. I am here," on my walk over, she starts to calm down even then. She knows I'll be there. It's a thing I take pride in. Her snuggling in and sighing and relaxing into my body is one of my favorite feelings in the world.
The idea of leaving her alone to cry when she is scared or hungry makes me feel sick and want to cry.