marymagdelene
New member
@goldensleather Time for a very serious conversation. I’m very pro taking breaks from work if needed and supporting your partner, but there are absolutely limits. Nothing you’re doing or not doing (you’re doing more than enough to be clear) is the reason he’s not figured his stuff out. I’m also a lawyer (trying to leave a firm) and can attest to how mentally exhausting it is even in the best of times.
Your husband needs to get back to work ASAP. Maybe he needs a career coach, maybe he needs a therapist, maybe he needs a kick in the butt. That’s for him to determine. Having a stay at home parent is a two yeses situation or it’s a no. Being the only person working is mentally exhausting and a recipe for disaster unless it’s what both people want. This is even worse because you actually wanted, and were promised, a chance to have time out of the workforce. My point is, you’ve given your husband considerable space to figure it out and support—it’s well beyond time for him to step up.
Your husband needs to get back to work ASAP. Maybe he needs a career coach, maybe he needs a therapist, maybe he needs a kick in the butt. That’s for him to determine. Having a stay at home parent is a two yeses situation or it’s a no. Being the only person working is mentally exhausting and a recipe for disaster unless it’s what both people want. This is even worse because you actually wanted, and were promised, a chance to have time out of the workforce. My point is, you’ve given your husband considerable space to figure it out and support—it’s well beyond time for him to step up.