@arbin My husband received a stage IV cancer diagnosis when our LO was about 5 months old. My husband had been in significant pain for pretty much the entirety of our newborn’s life and it took months for the final diagnosis to come in.
We were give about five minutes at the end of the meeting with the doctors who finally provided a diagnosis (however terrible that diagnosis was), to make a decision about saving and storing my husband’s sperm. It was almost like an after thought from the doctors to even bring this up - and maybe given the severity of the situation they really just wanted to get started on treatment.
We were already OAD so it was a quick conversation for us but if we hadn’t already made the decision to be OAD, on top of everything else happening, that would have been an incredibly difficult discussion and we would not have had the time to do so (husband got final diagnosis on a Thursday afternoon and was told to check in to the hospital to begin treatment the following morning - we had less than 24 hours from final diagnosis to start of treatment to even wrap our heads around what was happening let alone think about saving speed).
But like others have mentioned, I think the sadness comes from having the choice taken away from you and having it taken away under super stressful and emergency conditions.
We likely couldn’t have more kids now even if we weren’t OAD (treatment took too much of a toll on things) but it’s okay to feel however you are feeling and like others have said, probably good to talk it through with a professional.
Stay well!