manitouscott
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Seriously, why is that a thing? I’m obviously not talking about diagnosed health conditions that can make people justifiably concerned about their fertility. But I just had an argument with a friend who is about to start TTC, and is absolutely convinced she’s going to be infertile because of her “allergies” (i.e. lactose intolerance). (I really hope she won’t find this post, but screw it.) This comes a few months after my other friend told everyone that she just knew she would struggle because of her (self-diagnosed) PCOS, and got pregnant literally on her first try.
So then, when they inevitably get pregnant within a few months, they see it as some sort of personal achievement and think they can offer you advice. “This is because I’ve been taking lots of vitamin D!” Right, good for you. I swear there’s nothing you can tell me about TTC that I don’t already know. And you haven’t magically overcome infertility – you’re just an average person, and infertility was all in your head to begin with.
I just don’t understand why people do this. I know TTC is stressful, and I also found the first few months anxiety inducing (now I’m just dead inside lol), but infertility is not some kind of club that’s really cool to be part of. Hell, I have absolutely no interest in joining it even though we’re on cycle 10 so it’s looking more and more likely. Can people just stop?!
EDIT: This thread’s attracted a lot of comments along the lines of “but I have x/y/z that can affect fertility” – again, that’s not what I meant! There are obviously conditions that can affect fertility and make people anxious before they start trying, which is completely understandable. It’s the unfounded infertility claims that are baffling to me – and even if you have health anxiety (again, understandable), sharing your anxious thoughts with people who are actually struggling just comes across as tone deaf.
So then, when they inevitably get pregnant within a few months, they see it as some sort of personal achievement and think they can offer you advice. “This is because I’ve been taking lots of vitamin D!” Right, good for you. I swear there’s nothing you can tell me about TTC that I don’t already know. And you haven’t magically overcome infertility – you’re just an average person, and infertility was all in your head to begin with.
I just don’t understand why people do this. I know TTC is stressful, and I also found the first few months anxiety inducing (now I’m just dead inside lol), but infertility is not some kind of club that’s really cool to be part of. Hell, I have absolutely no interest in joining it even though we’re on cycle 10 so it’s looking more and more likely. Can people just stop?!
EDIT: This thread’s attracted a lot of comments along the lines of “but I have x/y/z that can affect fertility” – again, that’s not what I meant! There are obviously conditions that can affect fertility and make people anxious before they start trying, which is completely understandable. It’s the unfounded infertility claims that are baffling to me – and even if you have health anxiety (again, understandable), sharing your anxious thoughts with people who are actually struggling just comes across as tone deaf.