Hello!
As of two weeks ago, I'm am officially one and done. I have mixed feelings about it but ultimately feel this is the best decision for us.
First of all, the money. I work 4 days a week and my spouse 5 days. Even with that, it seems like it's not enough. Daycare is very expensive, we both work late, and we have no support system. My parents live 8 hours away and my MIL is disabled and can't help.
I also had difficulites with pregnancy. My first pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage at 12 weeks and I also had a D&C. I thankfully had my rainbow baby a few months later. During the second pregnancy, I developed cholestasis and the pregnancy became high risk. Had to get stress tests and biophysical ultrasounds 3-4x weekly until delivery, which was way 37 weeks. I was informed that it will return if I become pregnant again.
A year after my baby was born ( he's 3.5 years now), I had the first of at least 9 surgeries/procedures regarding my esophagus. My nutrition has gone down hill since and I still can't properly eat or get enough nutrition ( protein or fruits).
Then, I was recently diagnosed with adenomyosis and early signs of peri menopause, on top of insulin resistance. I already have severe osteoporosis and rheumatoid arthritis.
Also, he's been a lot of work. Terrible twos and threenager stages are HARD. Lots of tantrums, whining, and redirection. We are finally getting better with the tantrums and whining but it's draining and we have a long way to go.
So due to my above reasons, money, and my husband being happy with our one child, I made the decision to get my tubes removed. I'm actually recovering from a uterine ablation and Salpingectomy.
It was a weird decision especially leading up to the surgery, because of the "what if's", but I know I'm not healthy enough to carry a baby. Can't go back now!
As of two weeks ago, I'm am officially one and done. I have mixed feelings about it but ultimately feel this is the best decision for us.
First of all, the money. I work 4 days a week and my spouse 5 days. Even with that, it seems like it's not enough. Daycare is very expensive, we both work late, and we have no support system. My parents live 8 hours away and my MIL is disabled and can't help.
I also had difficulites with pregnancy. My first pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage at 12 weeks and I also had a D&C. I thankfully had my rainbow baby a few months later. During the second pregnancy, I developed cholestasis and the pregnancy became high risk. Had to get stress tests and biophysical ultrasounds 3-4x weekly until delivery, which was way 37 weeks. I was informed that it will return if I become pregnant again.
A year after my baby was born ( he's 3.5 years now), I had the first of at least 9 surgeries/procedures regarding my esophagus. My nutrition has gone down hill since and I still can't properly eat or get enough nutrition ( protein or fruits).
Then, I was recently diagnosed with adenomyosis and early signs of peri menopause, on top of insulin resistance. I already have severe osteoporosis and rheumatoid arthritis.
Also, he's been a lot of work. Terrible twos and threenager stages are HARD. Lots of tantrums, whining, and redirection. We are finally getting better with the tantrums and whining but it's draining and we have a long way to go.
So due to my above reasons, money, and my husband being happy with our one child, I made the decision to get my tubes removed. I'm actually recovering from a uterine ablation and Salpingectomy.
It was a weird decision especially leading up to the surgery, because of the "what if's", but I know I'm not healthy enough to carry a baby. Can't go back now!
