faiththeword
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Looking for insight on the decision making process. We go back and forth on having another. We’ve wanted to have a second, but for various reasons over the last decade we haven’t. Our first was unplanned, and we weren’t “ready” in any sense of the word. If we had not had supportive family around, I probably would have given my son up for adoption. Not because I didn’t want him, but because it would have been the best thing for him.
Anyways, we got older, circumstances changed, we got married, and we grew up into a point where we were like, “Okay maybe now we could.” And then things would fall to pieces financially usually due to my health.
Our son is 9 now, and I don’t want to box myself into the mindset of, “It’s too late.” Because it’s not about the age of my son, it’s a family decision. And just because my son is older doesn’t mean we couldn’t have another baby.
This is just some back ground. And I realize I am rambling.
I suppose my point is, we want(ed?) to have another, but now I’m not so sure. I realize only my family and I can decide this for ourselves. But how did y’all decide you were OAD? Im sure there’s other people on here who thought they might have more and then circumstances changed that. How did you become 100% okay with that?
I used to be very sad that I hadn’t another child by now, but Im more at peace with it now. And even making peace with the fact that OAD may be the path our like is destined for. Not 100%, but Im getting there.
Anyways, we got older, circumstances changed, we got married, and we grew up into a point where we were like, “Okay maybe now we could.” And then things would fall to pieces financially usually due to my health.
Our son is 9 now, and I don’t want to box myself into the mindset of, “It’s too late.” Because it’s not about the age of my son, it’s a family decision. And just because my son is older doesn’t mean we couldn’t have another baby.
This is just some back ground. And I realize I am rambling.
I suppose my point is, we want(ed?) to have another, but now I’m not so sure. I realize only my family and I can decide this for ourselves. But how did y’all decide you were OAD? Im sure there’s other people on here who thought they might have more and then circumstances changed that. How did you become 100% okay with that?
I used to be very sad that I hadn’t another child by now, but Im more at peace with it now. And even making peace with the fact that OAD may be the path our like is destined for. Not 100%, but Im getting there.