@dkeefe The ratios in my country are INSANE:
- For babies under 1yo: 1 teacher per 8 babies.
- From 1 to 2: 1 per 13.
- From 2 to 3: 1 per 20.
There is no way 1 person can properly look after 8 babies for up to 12hrs a day (that's how long some daycares are open for). Not only to encourage their cognitive and motor development or engage with them emotionally... But what about physical safety? The caregiver will basically be changing nappies non-stop. Will they be able to do much more looking after 8 infants?? And looking after 20 2yo?????
Looking after young ones is terribly extenuating and challenging at times. Imagine working surrounded by screaming babies that you are unable to soothe because you are literally buried in dirty nappies. I can imagine 99% of those caregivers will not be happy and calm, but rather stressed and burned out.
So it is definitely a ratio and a mental health issue.
If you homeschool your 5 kids or suffer from PPD, your baby will likely thrive more in a good daycare with lower ratios and more emotionally available caregivers. However, if you can access any other calm and loving caregiver, offering your kids a 1:1 ratio is always best.
Like you, I don't really understand the comment against nannies. Given that the 1:1 ratio is maintained in both scenarios, the care would be more beneficial to kids if the caregiver has a deeper emotional bond.
Our nanny was a Godsend. She loved our daughter like she was her own and their relationship was amazing. Our daughter hasn't seen her since she was 20months and still talks about her a year later. On the other hand, I have some family members whom I went no contact years ago. I wouldn't want these people near my kids, regardless of bloodline. Not all family members are made or sunshine and love. Pretending otherwise is terribly naive.
What it's also naive is pretending a good daycare will be better than a good stay at home family. I'm not even talking about having the luxury of one stay at home parent, but ideally both of them. In an ideal world, we would all get 3 years parental leave to raise our kids