@pudnanewell1986 I am sorry for your loss. My son(Twin b) will be 12 in October, and he had a twin(twin a) who passed away shortly after birth. We knew at the first ultrasound that it was going to happen, as he had a condition. It was a complicated, stressful pregnancy, and we did all we could to save him. But ultimately we knew he was not going to make it. Our focus was to save twin b. They were not in the same sac, but they shared a placenta,so it was imperative that both babies make it to a point where they were viable, because if I lost one, I would lose both. They were born premature but viable and twin b was taken to Nicu immediately. I steeled myself throughout my pregnancy, but I bonded with twin a more than I wanted to. I thought i was prepared for his death, but nothing prepared me for the feelings I felt as I held him while he took his last breaths. His tiny fingers holding mine. His tiny pale lips moving almost imperceptibly, his breaths coming further and further apart until I couldn't tell if I was imagining them. I still sometimes feel a flutter or a pain in my side where he was and I still grieve sometimes, when I imagine what could have been. My son is almost 12,and we told him at 5 years old. I thought he would be old enough to understand, but young enough to process quickly. I didn't want him to find out from some family member when he was older. He would randomly get sad over the years, and would ask me uncomfortable questions, and he would have his own what-ifs. He does feel like a part of him is missing. We had another baby almost 4 years later, but her being a girl, and the age gap, means they don't have much in common. But they do love each other. He is at a point now where he is able to talk about his twin without getting sad. This is all to say that ultimately, I consider us lucky to have had him at all. That pregnancy with all its complications, could have gone either way, and we would not have even had one baby. Two would have been a wonderful bonus, but we were never expecting to have 2 babies and we were so so lucky to have gotten away with one. So many don't get that even.