@pudnanewell1986 My son turns one month today. We lost his twin really early on in the pregnancy, so by the time we had our first ultrasound he was gone. They said he had stopped developing somewhere along 7 weeks, and even though I hadn't known of his existence, when the doctor told us that I was broken. It was just raw pain, and nothing anyone said could calm me.
I felt like others didn't understand. I still do. It didn't matter that there was another little boy, I still mourned the son I lost. I was happy for my child that survived, and tormented by the one who did not, and still to this day I catch myself thinking those what ifs. As hard as struggling with one newborn is, I would have gladly sacrificed more sleep, to have them both with me.
I know he'll always be in the back of my mind as I watch my little one grow, but I try to console myself with the thought that his brother is watching over him like a guardian angel. Sometime it helps, sometimes it doesn't.