@pudnanewell1986 Three months before I got pregnant with my beautiful, 9-month old daughter, I lost one too. I am incredibly grateful for my baby girl. She is silly, happy, a great sleeper, and brings so much joy to my life. But I sometimes think about what it would have been like if she were born to me 3-months earlier. My beliefs have helped me cope.
I believe that souls can neither be created nor destroyed. They all exist in a world outside our own, always have and always will. A baby, fetus, embryo, zygote, whatever - just because it never makes it to this planet does not mean it dies. It means the vessel was not fit to host the soul. At that point the soul simply elevates back up to wherever it came from (insert your self subscribed religious beliefs here), and comes back down again when another vessel is ready for it.
Please don’t think I’m being crass or trite when I say this, but your baby is not gone. He or she is either waiting above for a new opportunity or living amongst us now in a different life? Maybe your lost baby’s soul is even waiting for you and your wife to get pregnant again so he or she can come back down?
I’m sorry for your loss. It is real and traumatic. Your life is not what is SHOULD have been, but life rarely ever pans out that way. Take solace in the concept that the soul of the baby you lost goes on, despite the failure of the vessel it first inhabited.