@atreides82 Ok first a pool suggestion. At 2, you don’t need to potty train, but what you
could do is start telling them to poop in their diaper at certain times. Like ok, we’re about to go to the playground, if you feel poo poo, now is a good time to go in your diaper. Etc. my kid was actually really good at this. That way, if timed correctly, you could say ok poop in the morning, then you’ll have a window to swim in the pool with no diaper. Who cares about peeing in the pool honestly. It’s just about poop. But for real, if you’re in the pool for little while, and the kid can’t swim so you’ll literally be holding them, you’ll be able to dip in for a short time without them pooping in that moment. So basically have a diaper on under swim suit, take it off to dip in the pool, put the diaper back on. Idk if lifeguards will be nearby patrolling? Otherwise tell your mom to come over and potty train the kid themselves all weekend.
Please get rid of your dog. My friends kid has been bitten on the face by their friendly family dog, needing many stitches. And once was pushed down and knocked the kids teeth out. Their lucky things weren’t fatal honestly.
Delete social media instantly. Do not look at everyone else having perfect Easter’s. I swear it’s all fake and only designed to make you miserable. If you don’t let it into your life, it’s simply not there. You can exist in the here and now present, and you’ll feel happier.
Can you go on care.com or bambino and hire a helper or sitter for a couple of hours? Sometimes I reach out to sitters and ask them if they can just help me clean and they’re fine with that.
Even in good times, my house is trashed. Once a week I spend about 4 hours tidying my house, then a cleaner comes for 3 more hours and deep cleans. By night time, it looks like it never happened. Some days I have the energy to pick up. Some days I use the time to watch trash tv and leave the floor covered in clutter. It gets to the same state every day in any case. I will literally forever have a mountain of the families socks mixed together that no matter how much time I have, I don’t have the mental strength to sort.
Everyone feels like this with little kids this age. It’s going to get a little easier every year. You’re in the thick of it right now.
I’m sorry you have no village. I don’t have any family help or support, and I let myself grieve that.