@madscribbler Hire a doula!! They can give you so much support in making your birth plan and will be there for you during labor. Many also provide postpartum support.
I say this assuming you have a partner: let them struggle a little bit. I think a lot of what people call “mother’s intuition” is just more opportunities to troubleshoot. Letting them problem solve for a moment makes them more confident and they’ll be able to do everything you can do (except breastfeeding, if you’re planning to do that)
There are also a lot of parenting styles and techniques out there, and we can often be made to feel like we have to choose one or the other (e.g. cloth vs disposable diapers, breastfeeding vs formula, etc). None of these are all or nothing. Pick and choose what works for you, your baby, and your sanity.
People will also ask you if the baby is sleeping through the night when it is hilariously way too early for that. Don’t take it personally and think your baby is defective. I’m convinced it’s just people making conversation and it’s a question they feel safe asking.
If you have Instagram, do a mass unfollow of accounts that make you anxious or feel like you need certain products to be a better parent. Better yet, delete the app for a while if you can.
My registry must have is a baby carrier. My favorite is the Solly wrap. They look trickier than they really are. I actually find it easier and quicker than my Ergobaby. Practice with a teddy bear or doll before baby comes.